Mom gives $i$ter everything, me nothing
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|Fri, 06-20-2003 - 12:17pm|
Thanks for reading my post. I'm trying to tackle these family issues one at a time. Please let me know what you think:
My mother has always given everything to my sister, money and emotional support. I have confronted her over the years, even my mother's friends have! and I've been to counseling as well, nothing has helped and now I feel on my own to tackle these issues. We don't know her motive, but the dollar amount has really added up. My sister has been given a $350,000.00 house, $50,000 cars, a trust fund, a college education, credit cards, expensive & sentimental family jewelry, etc. etc. She took 14 years to get through college and lived for free while living from a trust fund set up by my mother.
I know the monetary issue should only be an issue but my family continues to belittle me and talk behind my back along with numerous other things. Then I can't help get angry over how much my sister has gotten while I put myself through college and lived in HUD housing and ate potatoes to get through school while they ate at Spago's in Beverly Hills! I don't know if my sister knows that I have never been given anything, but I'm sure she does. I have never confronted her and it angers me thinking that she willingly takes and takes from people and while I suffer. She has never once offered to help me or share anything, but rather they keep everything a secret as if I'll never figure it out! It makes me so angry to hear how she has a housekeeper, gardener and husband who sits on his butt, for free! He doesn't work. I have even asked my step-father how he thinks they can justify all this and he has actually said that sometimes life IS unfair and just deal with it! As if I should ignore what my sister gets. I almost can't look all of them in the face anymore and it makes for very difficult family gatherings.
Should I ask my sister if she knows that I've never been given anything, I'm sure this will create a huge tidal wave, she's practically bi-polar and will surely go off the deep end. I think she's afraid I may get some of her money somehow???? I really think she's glad I don't have anything, we have a very distant strained relationship at best.
My mother refuses to discuss the situation anymore, we've gone around in circles for years about it. All she says now is matter-of-factly, "some people benefit at the expense of others".
Thanks for listening!