Mom making me feel guilty

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Registered: 10-10-2009
Mom making me feel guilty
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 7:14pm

So there is a cousin's wedding in Indiana this weekend (10 hours away) and I can't go cause of financial issues that have come

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Registered: 12-09-2007
Tue, 05-17-2011 - 5:31am
Don't feel guilty. It is entirely your decision to decline an invitation to a wedding, not your mothers. She should be happy that you are being financially responsible, instead of trying to make you feel guilty for not going. My mother plays out the exact same types of antics, and they don't work anymore. I don't think you need to provide an explanation detailing your finances to your relatives either. That's none of anyones business but yours.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 05-12-2011 - 6:10pm

First, you NEVER have to explain to ANYONE why you are unable to attend something they have invited you to.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 8:22pm

You are correct, your finances need to be a priority.

Send your cousin a nice card and wish her the best.

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Registered: 02-04-2010
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 7:51pm

Hi Daisy,

You are taking the responsible attidtude that you can afford the trip to the wedding OR paying your bills. I think you know what the right thing to do is here.