Mom takes the Merry out of Christmas....
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|Tue, 12-23-2003 - 11:15am|
How can you deal with a mother who is determined to be miserable every Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years. Every year, no matter how good things are for the family, she's moaning and groaning. She's on medication for depression and it works fine until the holidays. Then all of a sudden she's the most miserable person on the planet. After the holidays she's fine. All of the family is living and healthy. We're are all financially comfortable. She's married to a man she loves, who worships her. She has grandkids that are healthy and happy. All the family gets together at the holidays. Everyone pitches in so she's not doing it all herself (cooking, decorating, shopping, etc). There is absolutely no reason for her to feel so down, but she always does from the day prior to Thanksgiving right on till Jan. 2. Her Psychiatrist suggested that it may be a way for her to get attention when the family is all gathered together at one time. He hasn't been any help at all in figuring out how to stop it. He simply suggests humoring her and suffering through it, since it doesn't last long. UGH!
This morning I called to ask her if she needed any help or anything picked up from the store since I live nearby. She just moaned about the rain we're having and how it might snow on Christmas Eve as if it were the end of the world. I told her that my 2 year old daughter (her youngest grandbaby) woke up singing jingle bells this morning and how happy that made me. She just sighed and said, "Well, babies don't have any worries. If they did, they'd never make it to adulthood." I wanted to scream when she said that!
A few days ago my 9 year old told me he didn't want to stop by his grandma's with me because she's so sad that she makes him feel sad too. I didn't know what to say to that because I am beginning to feel the same way. My mom has been like this as long as I can remember, but it is just now starting to wear on me. Maybe its because of the way it affects my kids.
Anyway, if any of you have advice on how I can make it through the next few weeks with my "holiday spirit" intact I would really appreciate it.