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|Wed, 03-13-2013 - 3:30pm|
My mother passed away about 5 years ago and was cremated. My daughter is a jewelry designer and took some of Mom's cremains and made a jewelry piece for herself and for my sister-in-law who asked for one containing a small bit of cremains. Both women are artists and have their jewelry pieces in their art studios and find it very meaningful.
I am not creeped out by cremains, but I don't find them particularly "charming" or meaningful either. I'm a big believer that one's body is only a temporary loan while we're here on earth and becomes a mere empty shell which is no longer needed after death, but when it's your mother's cremains, it gets a little more touchy feely emotional. About a year ago, I somehow ended up being given a small package housing the cremains left over after making the jewelry pieces.
I sort of put them in the back of a closet and forgot about them until I cleaned out the closet this week. And, there the little package sits. Any suggestions on how to properly "dispose" of them? I mean, it doesn't seem somehow proper to throw them in the garbage, and she had no connection to where I now live, so releasing them to the wind here seems a bit odd. The main portion of her cremains were buried next to my father's cremains in a cemetary in my hometown...but I rarely ever go there as it's quite a drive. (I thought about pouring these cremains on their grave.)
I guess it's silly, but I suddenly feel like this is a huge responsibility! I feel like I should do what's "right" with the cremains, so am looking for suggestions as to what YOU might do with them if you were me. They always lived near the ocean, and so do I, so maybe pouring them into the ocean would be "proper". And if so, should I go by myself and do it privately or should I bring my daughter or husband or some other family member and make it a bit "ceremonial".
Sometimes one's grown children put their parents in odd circumstances, and for me, this is one of them!!!