My friends fiance is how shall we say not good for her...
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|Fri, 07-29-2011 - 9:32pm|
I've known my friend for 6 years now and we are pretty close. We lived in the south but she went to school in the northeast. I recently moved up here as well and moved in with her and her fiance temporarily until I can get my own place. I knew from the beginning it could be a little difficult but mainly b/c of her fiance. There are a lot of things that he does that worries me for her and her future. It's not anything abusive or anything like that; it just doesn't seem to be fair toward her or even me.
I personally have issues with him because a lot of times he is very offensive and tries to pass it off as trying to be funny or smart. It just reeks of immaturity. They are both 4 years younger than me and a lot of times I get irritated with the attitude. Like today we were talking about our jobs and he starts saying how he's so smart for his job that they are going to be probably promoting him to a position that he would have if he were 26 (my age). He says things that make it seem like he's better than me and other people. Then he wonders why her friends don't like him. It's obvious to me why that is but I don't want to have issues with my friend because of this so I keep my mouth shut. I'm just trying to deal with his ridiculousness until I leave.
It's not only his pompous attitude that bothers me but also that he's lazy, he doesn't help much around the apartment and he wants to act like he's the man of the place. My friend likes going out and doing things and he stays inside all the time and complains that he doesn't have friends.
I worry that the same thing that happened to one of my other friends will happen to her. My other friend was engaged to her high school sweetheart but as they got closer and closer to their proposed marriage date she realized she was making a grave mistake. Her fiance and her didn't have much in common anymore and she was just with him out of comfort.
My friend and her fiance don't do much outside of the house together. They have been together for almost 7 years since high school and have barely dated anyone else. She's talked about having me as her bridesmaid but I don't know that I would feel right doing that being that I don't like him at all.
What can I possibly do in this situation? I again don't feel like I can do much b/c I don't want her to be angry with me b/c most importantly it's not like he's cheating on her or is abusive toward her. I just don't like him as a person and they seem so incompatible to me.
I really can't wait until I move out and get away from such pompous negativity. I get a headache when I talk to him b/c of not trying to cause fights. What can I do at all?