My hoity toity sister in law, or "She's had such a hard life."

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My hoity toity sister in law, or "She's had such a hard life."
Mon, 09-05-2011 - 9:11pm

If I hear one more time how my sil had such a hard life as a child I'm going to strangle my mother!!

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Sounds like the princess has everyone snowed. She sounds like one of those people that you have to keep your eye on..... Be careful!! Good luck!!!
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"This girl grew up with a mother who spoilt her rotten and a doting grandmother. She wanted for nothing. My mom thinks that because she didn't have a father her life was filled full of misery and strife."

I tend to agree with your mom that not having a father is something that's not replaced by any material goods. I just can't fathom that anyone who grew up with two parents knows how difficult it must be for those that only had one.

That said, you don't have to like everyone, related or not. Sure, I'll encourage you to be polite, but you don't have to go out of your way to plan shopping trips and lunches with this SIL. You're not going to have the same tastes as everyone else; so, you're not going to easily like everyone else just as they all might not easily like you. You feel she's snobby; so, when she exhibits this to you, you know you can just let it go--she's doing what you expect her to do and there's no reason to get upset about it every time, especially when you already expect this behavior. (I picture you at other family events, shrugging off her display of snobbery while thinking to yourself, "Yep, that's the SIL I know--she's probably never going to change," and then going on about enjoying the rest of the family gathering. :))


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I don't think you have a SIL problem as much as you have a mother problem. In other words, you don't like it when your mother states her beliefs about your SIL's upbrining. Time to have a conversation with Mom.

First a couple of observations.

1)You don't say how old