My husband loves our daughter more than me, She is causing problems between us! Advice?

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Registered: 06-06-2011
My husband loves our daughter more than me, She is causing problems between us! Advice?
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Mon, 06-06-2011 - 2:56pm

I am 47 and have been married to my husband since i was 20yo, We are from & live in Italy, together we have 4 sons & 1 daughter. Our daughter is 17 and she is the apple of my husbands eye, She is a very beautiful girl & comes from a wealthy family and uses that to her advantage, She has had many boyfriends in the past & he never approved of them and they we're terrified to get on his bad side. She has started to hang out with a 24yo musician from the US & he seems to be intrested in her, Im personally not crazy about him but she is playing games with his feelings which i don't approve of at all. Part of my husbands business is named after her, She is very use to her own way and has her father wrapped around her finger, anything she ever wanted he made sure she got, My husband has always been very protective of her, He also has a very strong personality, can be very arrogant, you could also call him obnoxious & very outspoken as he is not afraid to say what he really feels. She has decided she wants to move to the US and my husband is furious that the guy that has feelings for her is trying to take her away from her home, My husband wants her to stay in Italy and eventually marry someone from her homeland, She studied in Florence last year and he was always worried about her and sending her money. Many of her friends speak english & when my husband is talking to my daughter if her friends are there he only talks to her in italian or in general he refuses to speak to her in English. He is a very proud man and would give her the stars if he could, there is no limit to what he gives her but our daughter is very hard to be tamed & stubborn like her father and we have had arguments about her many times. Any advice on how to handle her & the arguing?

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Registered: 07-29-2002

That one is a tough one to figure out.

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Registered: 02-14-2004

Personally, I would stay out of it.

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Registered: 07-26-2011

I'm sorry to hear that your daughter is thinking about leaving, but she's very young. She's 17 and it is your job to guide her the right way. She needs to at least finish university