My little sister is a bad mother...I wanna slap her!!

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Registered: 10-04-2011
My little sister is a bad mother...I wanna slap her!!
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Wed, 10-05-2011 - 1:30am

My little sister is 17years old and has a 1year old son. He is a wonderful little boy. If only his mother wasnt around. She has slapped him repeatedly, we have no proof but we think she may have drugged him once while at a guys house she met on the internet. She has admitted to me that she wants her party life back. She only likes being a mother for the right to discipline him. She has shoved him into the water faucet on the bathtub because she wanted him to stay in the tub. On top of all this, she is trying to tell me how to raise my 3 month old daughter!!!

*>SammieGizmo<*

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Registered: 09-17-2005
So, have you called social services? Slapping a child repeatedly and shoving him is child abuse. Your sister is an abusive parent and the child needs to be removed from her "care" for his safety. She is not fit to have custody of a child. Please don't stand by and watch, do something - call social services if you haven't already and call them again if you have in the past. Don't let up until your nephew is safe.
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Registered: 07-29-2002

I agree with UKGIRL.

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Registered: 08-14-2002
Wait a minute .... so you want to do to her what she's doing to her child? That won't teach your little sister anything, and it won't help your nephew. I know it's scary to call Child Protective Services, and it tangles your whole family into a rat's nest of legal entanglements and interference - but it really IS the best option to protect your nephew. Your sister needs some training in parenting and anger management - and if CPS gets involved, those resources will be offered to her, or even mandated by the court.

How about this: Do some research into parenting classes for teens in your area, and offer for your sister to go with you. You could both benefit, and your children certainly will. Check with your county's Health Department, or division of Child and Family Services, or similar agencies. Parenting classes will teach appropriate methods of discipline, how to manage stress and frustration with children, balancing your other life issues with parenting demands, and lots about infant and child development. ALL of which will help reduce frustration when the child acts out - because you'll understand why it's happening, and what to do about it.

You could suggest these classes to her - and if she won't go, and the abuse continues, then call CPS. Your nephew is helpless. Please do the right thing for him, and get him some help.

                  &nbs

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Registered: 02-23-2010

First and foremost if you truly believe her baby is being abused by her you are responsible for contacting CPS to protect that baby!

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Registered: 10-04-2011

I know it wont do no good to hurt her. But she is irritating me to peices. She has no respect for my mother and treats her like crap even though my mom takes care of them. She plays keep away by locking herself and her son in the bedroom when she gets mad at us. She dont have a door anymore cause my mom took it off the hinges. She locks him in the room all day. He screams to get out. My mother is taking action to get custody of him because he cries if my mother isnt here. Im scared of my sister doing something to him just because she knows itll hurt us. She has threatened to get back with her abusive ex husband. The guy hit her repeatedly! But she said she'd go back to teach my mom a lesson because my mother was scared for bryan when they were together...but i will look into parenting classes. Thank you for the advice. Im just hoping my mother can get custody, she has been taking pictures of the handprints my sister has left on him. Im praying.

*>SammieGizmo<*
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Registered: 07-29-2002

Your Mom needs to contact Child Protective Services, and then go through them for custody.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Hey,

I began the proceedings to take away both of my sister's children. Sometimes ya gotta do what ya gotta do. It got me beaten to the ground at one point by my 6' tall sister, but it was worth it. She's still a terrible mother, and will never be allowed custody again of her 12 and 5 y.o. kids.

Have you or your mother told your sister that ya'll will contact CPS if she doesn't shape up? If your mother (and you included) knows of abuse and doesn't contact authorities, you can all be charged if they find the allegations serious enough.

What steps have your mother taken to get custody, besides taking pictures?

And I soooo understand about wanting to beat the crap out of her. As far as I'm concerned, it's a natural reaction to seeing child abuse. You want them to hurt, and hurt, and hurt like they're doing to a defenseless child. Why do you think CPS workers turn over so fast? I was interested in going that direction one time, but a couple of friends who were former CPS workers told me I wouldn't last any time because of my temper at seeing the horrific things I'd see. Neither one of them lasted over 2 years.

I would advise not to beat her up, lol, cause when CPS gets involved, you want to be squeaky clean.

Good luck, and please keep us updated.

 

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Registered: 04-19-2004

Edited b/c I read OP's follow up post.

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Registered: 02-14-2004

CALL SOCIAL SERVICES before she becomes the next Casey Anthony!

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Registered: 02-14-2004

I disagree with suggesting she go to parenting classes as a first step.

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