My little sister is a bad mother...I wanna slap her!!

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Registered: 10-04-2011
My little sister is a bad mother...I wanna slap her!!
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Wed, 10-05-2011 - 1:30am

My little sister is 17years old and has a 1year old son. He is a wonderful little boy. If only his mother wasnt around. She has slapped him repeatedly, we have no proof but we think she may have drugged him once while at a guys house she met on the internet. She has admitted to me that she wants her party life back. She only likes being a mother for the right to discipline him. She has shoved him into the water faucet on the bathtub because she wanted him to stay in the tub. On top of all this, she is trying to tell me how to raise my 3 month old daughter!!!

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Registered: 05-14-1999
I agree with the others, here. If the child is being abused, I would not try to take matters into my own hands, but would call CPS instead.
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Registered: 06-12-2011

Your sister has admitted to being an abusive parent and harming her child, you have a responsibility to call protective services. I know it sounds extreme but how would you feel if one day you heard she had drowned the child in the tub or shook him to death or some other serious harm had come to him like her drugging him to death. It happens everyday to innocent children while others knew and did nothing thinking the unthinkable would never happen. You could be saving your sisters life and future as well because her life would be over as well if she killed her child.

Your sister clearly needs parenting classes and

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Registered: 02-14-2004

Don't warn your sister that you are calling child protective services.

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Registered: 10-04-2011

Thank you everyone for the advice. I dont want bryan to get hurt. I love my sister and maybe someday she'll forgive me. Im gonna call because I don't want to see anything bad happen. My mother has taken pictures and she recently told me she is going to talk to someone. She told my sister and my sister said if we tried she'd leave. The thing is I know she will and she'll take bryan with her if we dont watch. Also, I know Im young and I know Im naive about alot of things. But I love my daughter. I do my best to take care of her. My husband and

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Registered: 02-14-2004

I disagree with suggesting she go to parenting classes as a first step.

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Registered: 02-14-2004

CALL SOCIAL SERVICES before she becomes the next Casey Anthony!

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Registered: 04-19-2004

Edited b/c I read OP's follow up post.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Hey,

I began the proceedings to take away both of my sister's children. Sometimes ya gotta do what ya gotta do. It got me beaten to the ground at one point by my 6' tall sister, but it was worth it. She's still a terrible mother, and will never be allowed custody again of her 12 and 5 y.o. kids.

Have you or your mother told your sister that ya'll will contact CPS if she doesn't shape up? If your mother (and you included) knows of abuse and doesn't contact authorities, you can all be charged if they find the allegations serious enough.

What steps have your mother taken to get custody, besides taking pictures?

And I soooo understand about wanting to beat the crap out of her. As far as I'm concerned, it's a natural reaction to seeing child abuse. You want them to hurt, and hurt, and hurt like they're doing to a defenseless child. Why do you think CPS workers turn over so fast? I was interested in going that direction one time, but a couple of friends who were former CPS workers told me I wouldn't last any time because of my temper at seeing the horrific things I'd see. Neither one of them lasted over 2 years.

I would advise not to beat her up, lol, cause when CPS gets involved, you want to be squeaky clean.

Good luck, and please keep us updated.

 

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Registered: 07-29-2002

Your Mom needs to contact Child Protective Services, and then go through them for custody.

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I know it wont do no good to hurt her. But she is irritating me to peices. She has no respect for my mother and treats her like crap even though my mom takes care of them. She plays keep away by locking herself and her son in the bedroom when she gets mad at us. She dont have a door anymore cause my mom took it off the hinges. She locks him in the room all day. He screams to get out. My mother is taking action to get custody of him because he cries if my mother isnt here. Im scared of my sister doing something to him just because she knows itll hurt us. She has threatened to get back with her abusive ex husband. The guy hit her repeatedly! But she said she'd go back to teach my mom a lesson because my mother was scared for bryan when they were together...but i will look into parenting classes. Thank you for the advice. Im just hoping my mother can get custody, she has been taking pictures of the handprints my sister has left on him. Im praying.

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