MY MOTHER!!!

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Registered: 07-29-2008
MY MOTHER!!!
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Sat, 11-27-2010 - 8:04pm

She never fails to disappoint. Yet another holiday has come and gone without so much as a call from her. I contacted her a month ago because I wanted to tell her my dd was going to be in a Christmas show to see if she would be interested in going and she said yes. I gave her all the info and told her to contact me about tickets. Well the show is starting next week and I have yet to hear from her. She constantly disappoints. I don't know why I'm surprised.

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Registered: 08-10-2010
In reply to: gd13rd
Sat, 11-27-2010 - 10:01pm

Hi, sorry you're upset.

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Registered: 01-20-2005
In reply to: gd13rd
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 12:55am

I am sorry that your mother has disappointed you and your family.

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Registered: 07-29-2008
In reply to: gd13rd
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 8:54am

Thank you.

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Registered: 07-29-2008
In reply to: gd13rd
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 9:00am

I've had many other postings. I'm

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Registered: 11-13-2009
In reply to: gd13rd
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 9:08am
How sad.

It's probably time for you to stop inviting her anywhere because it only hurts you and your kids. (well, it's hurting her, too, not getting to know her grandchildren, but she's too selfish to see that.)

 

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Registered: 11-24-2004
In reply to: gd13rd
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 11:39am

(((HUGS)))

I can see why you're disappointed. She's not much of a mother or a grandmother. I agree with Cat, to stop inviting her places. The kids will build up expectations, even if they think your mother might come to the play. If you want to call her to see how she's doing, perhaps call her when the kids aren't around. Perhaps if she's "out of sight, out of mind" it would be better for the kids.

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Registered: 01-20-2005
In reply to: gd13rd
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 4:04pm

Having been married to an alcoholic for over 30 years (sober now for 10 yrs), she may be doing the best she can.

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Registered: 07-29-2008
In reply to: gd13rd
Sun, 11-28-2010 - 8:43pm

Thank you so much for your response. I really am at a loss on what to do. Thanks for the advice. My dds are 7 and 3 so I try to keep as much from them as I can. My dd who's 7 had a family tree project and it killed me to give her a pic of my mom bc I was so worried she'd ask questions, but she didn't, so I didn't say anything either. I don't want them to be disappointed with her like I am. It is so hurtful I'm just trying to spare them any hurt.

I don't know if I should try an intervention or something? Have you had any experience with that? Thanks again.

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Registered: 01-20-2005
In reply to: gd13rd
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 1:26am

I have not had experience with an intervention, per se.