My mother continually betrays me
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|Wed, 06-04-2003 - 7:13pm|
Thank you for reading my posting. I really could use some advice with my family. My new husband and I just recently moved 2,000 miles to be closer to my family. We stayed Memorial weekend with them and on our way out the door (I wasn't in the room) my mother took my husband aside and told him what a bad child I was, that I got bad grades, how she learned from my behavior, etc. and this is all sooo far from the truth. I was an excellent student in school, was in gifted programs and was a good child. My father was physically abusive to me as a child and when my mother found out I think she became jealous and maybe this is her reason now for the way she treats me and why she may want to ruin my current relationship, she might think I ruined hers. My mother is somewhat well-off and has always given material things to my sister while giving me nothing. My sister lives in a $350,000.00 house, drives a $50,000.00 car, has a housekeeper, gardener and babysitter and is a second year teacher. Not to mention being given appliances, credit cards and a college education she constantly has my mother's love and support. I tried to overlook all of this for the sake of getting along.
But this past weekend at her house sent me over the edge. I asked her why she said these things to my husband and she at first denied saying them and now says there's a misunderstanding. There was no misunderstanding since my husband repeated some childhood things that I have never told him.
I can't have her ruining my marriage, I've had to find friends to vouch for me and tell my husband that I wasn't a bad child and that my mother is bi-polar. My sister never calls me, never sends holiday cards, never thanks me for gifts I send her son or even acknowledges she gets them in the mail. She rarely speaks to me at family gatherings. I think she's afraid if we all get along that I will get some of my mother's money. Now my mother has my grandmother mad at me, my sister mad at me and my stepfather even called me defending my mother. He raised his voice at me saying that I should ignore her for the sake of getting along. I think he's asking me to allow myself to be abused for the sake of my mother. I really don't know what to do, my husband and I will have no family if we break all ties with them again and we just moved 2,000 miles to be closer to them! (he only has a sister and father who don't speak to us and live 1,500 miles away, his mother is deceased) But also I can't go on with a toxic family......
Edited 6/4/2003 7:17:09 PM ET by cagirl767
Edited 6/4/2003 7:21:56 PM ET by cagirl767