My niece's wedding - bridemaid's dress question

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My niece's wedding - bridemaid's dress question
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Mon, 08-08-2011 - 11:37am

Hi ladies:

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My dd, the possible bridesmaid, is 20 years old and is in college. Maybe I shouldn't have said that my sister w/b pissed off if we declined my dd participating.

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Registered: 06-16-1998

This story is sad. I see a wedding as an opportunity to surround oneself with the family and friends who mean the most; not just people who can afford to make the wedding appear elegant or glamorous.

A considerate bride will take into account affordability when choosing the bridesmaids dresses. I'd be concerned that an inconsiderate bride might become a Bridezilla which would not be fun for the bridesmaids.

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:smileysurprised:

I am getting married in March & I am not even spending that much on my wedding dress!!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Well, I got a reply back from my sister, who wasn't clear in her initial email about the dress cost.

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Hi there, my daughter is getting married in 2 wks. It cost her over $2000 when she was a bridesmaid in the Spring so she has refused to let this happen to her attendants. I agree that a dress is likely to be between 150 to 250 but then there are the alterations, shoes, hair, makeup, mani/pedi, underwear, jewellery for the day. Then you start on the shower gifts, the shower the bridesmaids throw, the jack & jill, the bachelorette party & finally the wedding gift. This can all add up to 1200 easily. My DD brought her girls dresses, found their shoes on sale, is giving them their jewellery as a gift and their mani/pedi is a treat from me. She refused the jack & jill (last one she had to help with cost her $500), told them they weren't to give a shower as an aunt from each side of the family wanted to give one and that was enough. She held a weekend bachelorette party at our family cottage supplying most of the food, they brought the snacks & alcohol. So her girls' have kept their costs down significantly. All but 1 are in their 30s with small kids, so not a lot of extra cash. In return, these wonderful women brought her expensive shower gifts in spite of being told not to buy any. They have all pitched in to help with the decorations/invitations/etc and they are taking the 2 days before the wedding off from their jobs to held my DD decorate our home where the wedding is being held. No one appears to be unhappy with my daughter or accusing her of being a brideszilla and there have been none of the tensions between the girls that I have seen in other weddings. These women have become closer to DD and they are all now good friend even though most didn't know each other before.

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