My niece's wedding - bridemaid's dress question

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My niece's wedding - bridemaid's dress question
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Mon, 08-08-2011 - 11:37am

Hi ladies:

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Registered: 05-14-1999

Don't laugh, but I Googled "average cost of bridesmaid dress 2011" and the top link was $100.00.

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Registered: 10-05-2007

I've been in several weddings over the last decade or so, and the most I ever spent on a bridesmaid's dress was $450, and that was for a $500,000 wedding at the Beverly Hills hotel, where the bride wore a $12,000 custom Vera Wang.

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Thank you both SO much for your input on this.

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P.S.

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Registered: 06-06-2001
"I know my sister would be really pissed off if I declined my dd participating as a bridesmaid but I think being insensitive to other people's financial situations is just wrong."

Why would you need to speak for your daughter in declining? I think it's odd that she hasn't yet been asked, and already there's a fit in the family. Why not just wait to get all worked up till your daughter is actually asked, and then let her be an adult and decide if she wants to afford participation or not?

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Avatar for cfk_3
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Registered: 05-14-1999
I was curious, and Googled what percentage of US citizens make above average income, and one result indicated that it is only 34%. I don't know how accurate that number is, but I found another link that indicated that 50% of Americans live on an average income of $47,500/annually. Considering, and this is just my observation, that a decent percentage of people are living beyond their means these days, it could explain the "average cost" you were quoted :)

It's funny b/c I'm in the process of throwing my parents a 50th Anniversary party. I'm amazed that we have managed to stay on budget!
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Registered: 06-16-1998

Since its your sister hopefully you can speak frankly with her. I'd tell her that your dd would be honored to be a bridesmaid but that a dress that expensive will put it out of your budget for her to participate. That gives her/the bride the option of choosing a more affordable dress, or choosing a wealthier bridesmaid. I suspect that a $1200 dress would make a lot of people unable to participate. I know of a couple of gals getting married soon who found bridal gowns for less than that so I wonder if she got the price wrong.

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Registered: 04-19-2004

Well, now that I have cleaned up the drink I just spit out.......

Let me begin by stating i think it is VERY rude of her to contact people and state she is thinking of your dd as a possible candidate and give you a VERY large dollar amt of what your expenses MIGHT be if you are selected.

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Registered: 03-20-2007
HOLY CATS! I've been married three times (third is a charm) and all THREE of my WEDDING DRESSES didn't cost that combined! I was just a BM in my little brothers wedding. It was a very formal affair, and with alterations, the dress cost $350. Add for shoes, hair and makeup, and we were at $500, which I thought was outrageous. $1200 just for the dress?!?! NO WAY!!!

Shanna
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My sister was the one who told me that my dd and her two cousins MAY be asked and also mentioned the cost of the dresses. She knows that the cost may be a real issue for my other sister since she has two girls. I guess she's assuming that it won't be an issue for me. :-) She brought up the matter to ME so I don't think it's a problem letting her know in advance that the costs involved may be too much for us so she can tell my niece. Maybe my niece hasn't asked my dd for that reason; having her mom check with me in advance. Also, my dh and I will be paying for the dress and everything else. If I know my dd...if she is asked to be a bridesmaid, she would be very tempted to say yes w/o thinking of the expenses involved and then it w/b very hard for her to decline. Also, I know that my niece is trying to figure out exactly who she wants for bridesmaids. I don't find it odd at all that she hasn't formally asked anyone yet. What's the rush?

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