My parents are such a mess.

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Registered: 09-06-2007
My parents are such a mess.
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Sat, 04-09-2011 - 2:29pm

Hi all,

My parents are such a mess.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Sat, 04-09-2011 - 2:49pm
Hey Again, Sienna. I replied to you on another thread, don't know if you saw it...

About all I can say to you is Wow. There's so much going on there. And some is somewhat similar to my situation.

You're more forgiving than I. So I don't have much advice, but want you to know we're here for support.

 

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Sat, 04-09-2011 - 2:57pm
Whoa, that got really long! I did see your other post, I probably do have hundreds of posts. This board is what I do when I procrastinate from doing my homework :P I must procrastinate a lot.

It was mostly a vent. I am not up to par on your situation, how is it similar?

I don't know if I am forgiving, but I'm trying to be the rational logical one!
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Sun, 04-10-2011 - 12:31am
I guess now that I re-read it, our situations aren't that similar. I guess I was mostly struck about your statement that maybe your mother would be better off if he died. I know it sounds terrible, but I know how you feel in that regard. Only I wouldn't cry over my father, and I wouldn't miss him... it's a really long story. The immediate thing is he's trying to make me lose my home by breaking a verbal contract regarding the land my home sits on. There aren't enough words to describe this man.

I gave up trying to be the "rational logical one." It's a losing battle in my family!

 

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Registered: 02-25-2002
Sun, 04-10-2011 - 7:44am

Hi, there...wow, you really did need to vent! It is a shame, really, you're parents are still relatively young. I say this as we are in our early '50's and still feel very young at heart.

I've always believed that the gambling addiction is the worst of them all, because when it's all over...loved ones are not only left to grieve, but their lives are often left in utter chaos.

What I would do....regardless of whether it does any good or not, but I would tell dad, look, you're dying, at least give mom some peace for once in your life before you go. He is probably so afraid she will leave that he puts her down and trashes her self esteem so she won't think about going anywhere. But it would be a shame if he died

 

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 04-14-2011 - 7:19pm

What a shame. I am so sorry. I am sorry for your childhood and your mother as well.