My relationship with my mom is going downhill

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Registered: 05-13-2002
My relationship with my mom is going downhill
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 2:03am

Hello all

I just feel like I need someone to talk to about a problem that I am having with my mother.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 12:39pm

I think her character flaws are magified, because you are under one roof. You are used to doing things your way and having your household exactly the way you want it. Now you have to contend with someone else's needs and wants. Being that she is already difficult, that makes it even more difficult. She sounds pretty invasive, asking you about matters you wish to keep private. While away, you also "grew" a lot and once away from a toxic environment, you come to realize how toxic the environment is. I've never moved back home once I moved out, but just visiting made me realize that the family dynamic was a little topsy turvy.

You also may be frustrated from the job search and feeling your life is "on hold". I know that feeling all too well. I think once you do find your job and get your life back the way it was, your relationship won't seem like it's so "downhill".

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 10:34am

OMG...your mother and mine sound the same!!!


(Mom to Alex and Marlena)

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 6:35pm

I have never liked my mother more than after I moved out.

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 9:33am

Thank you so much for posting this.

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Registered: 05-13-2002
Sat, 12-04-2010 - 12:47am

Thank you all for your replies!

I really appreciate that all of you took time to read my post and your opinions.