My sister doesn't want to contact me what should I do next?

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Registered: 03-31-2012
My sister doesn't want to contact me what should I do next?
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Sun, 04-01-2012 - 9:24am

Yesterday's post:

http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/Venting-About-Family/Should-I-contact-my-long-lost-adult-sister-who-has-cut-contact/m-p/119128379

Yesterday I called her and she said she doesn't know me and I'm not her sister. She said other people (who most likely adopted her) are her family. I told her she doesn't have to return and/or speak to to her "old" family and I just want to form a relationship with her and get to know her better. Then she told me to quit contacting her or she will get a restraining order against me. How can I form a relationship with her if she's pretending we're not related and says she will get a restraining order against me if I contact her again?

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Registered: 08-10-2010

(Just FYI, you could have continued the discussion from the other thread.

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Registered: 10-14-2003

Wow.

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Registered: 09-17-2005
"How can I form a relationship with her if she's pretending we're not related and says she will get a restraining order against me if I contact her again?"

You can't and you don't. I don't know what happened to cause her to disown her whole family at 18 but regardless, she's an adult and she has the right to choose if she wants you in her life or not. She's made it clear she does not want that and you can't force her to change her mind. If you can't accept that and instead continue to contact her, you are indeed essentially stalking her and she would be within her rights to put a restraining order on you.
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Registered: 01-22-2004
Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. Give up and let her go!