My sister's a pathological lier.

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Registered: 04-29-2003
My sister's a pathological lier.
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Tue, 04-29-2003 - 11:46am
My sister is a pathological lier. She is seeking psychotherapy and on medication but continues to lie about big and small stuff. I cannot trust her, but I love her and I want to support her. Based on the things she has done, if she was not family, I would no longer be able to speak to her. My parents have stepped in frequently to prevent legal and financial consequences from affecting her, which I think has only perpetuated the problem. She is very manipulative and they have taken out additional loans to pay off her debts. My husband has all but given up on her. I am worried about my parents. I am worried about my sister. I don't know how to interact with her without making the situation worse. I am also seeking therapy for this and other issues that I have going on in my life. Does anyone have any suggestions for me?
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Tue, 04-29-2003 - 12:15pm
It sounds like you are doing the best that you can. Keep going to counseling. I am going thru a similar problem, you are not alone! My sister has a drug addiction plus I know she has lied in the past to cover up her problem and is probably still lying. She is supposedly getting treatment now but she has practically cut me and my mom out of her life. It's hard, I know. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. The only thing you can do is take care of yourself first and foremost, and don't give in to her or jump to try to fix everything she messes up. You can't fix it and she is not your responsibility. Hopefully her therapy will help her work thru this and get her on a path to living a truthful & more meaningful life.

Hugs to you!

Jenny

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Wed, 04-30-2003 - 10:41am
My sister has always told lies. She tells them so much and so often that they become the truth for her. She will remember something from our past one way and we will remember it another. She actually believes herself and that is so sad. All I can tell you is to hang in there. You know she lies, you are going to start counseling, so hopefully things will be going on the upswing. If this is really upsetting to you I would stay away from her and don't take anything she says to heart. I would also get her to go into counseling also, the more people bail her out of the troubles she gets in she will continue to keep doing it. We are here for you. I know it has helped me immensley to come here and just let it go. Please feel free to post as much as you can and jump in whenever you can. Hoe to hear from you soon~~~Michelle
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Wed, 04-30-2003 - 6:39pm
Thank you for your response. It helps to know that I'm not alone in my situation. :)