My worst christmas ever need advice

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2007
My worst christmas ever need advice
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Sat, 12-25-2010 - 8:10pm

I was wondering if I can get some advice on this situation

My mother does not like to do anything anymore for any holiday. She won't go to anyones house b/c she feels people harass her. She claims this happens anywhere she goes weather it's to the supermarket, bank, drug store. She feels people are harassing her anywhere she goes. I happen to think she's going through something, but I'm not sure. Anyhow she told me she is not going to put herself in any situation where she can be harased, until she knows it stops.

Now i'm an only child, single, 30 years and live on my own.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Sat, 12-25-2010 - 9:56pm

Usually a blanket statement is the best way to go, in these types of situations.

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Registered: 06-06-2003
Sun, 12-26-2010 - 6:37am

It sounds like your mother hasn't really moved on since she lost your dad or maybe just suffering from some depression.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 5:10am

How old is your mother?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 12-27-2010 - 3:25pm

My mother has this. she always has but it has gotten worse as she has aged.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2004
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 12:13pm
How much do you know about your mother´s childhood? Was she raised in judgemental family? She might have this from childhood. If she doesn´t want to see a doctor, it might help to talk and write about the topic, to have some relif, which might help.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2003
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 1:46pm

I doubt if she'd consent, but

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-23-2003
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 8:34pm

I think imotherothers is on to something, although that may be because I have social anxiety too. Meds have helped tremendously! I didn't know what was wrong with me for the longest time. Check out

http://www.paganedge.com/
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Registered: 01-22-2004
Wed, 12-29-2010 - 2:47am
Give her bach flowers esense; Larch, to be more confident and unafraid and don´t take other comments personaly. With some other like Chamomile, for calmness and peace. Good luck
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Registered: 12-30-2010
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 10:19am
This sounds like a change for your mother. I have recently gone through a discovery about the effects of hormonal imbalance. I am wondering if she needs a medical check up for hormonal imbalance or depression- which can be definetely related. My mother has become very grouchy and snippy. I have discussed this with my father who may attend her appts. with her. She use to be very happy and more joyful to be with. Things change with age.