Need advice about emotionally abusive mother (just had twins three months ago)...
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|Sat, 11-12-2011 - 2:05am|
Hi! My name is Sarah and I'm 31. I'm currently on mat leave from being a supply teacher. I just had twin sons in August. I love my sons and have waited years to become pregnant! I feel so blessed to have my sons! I also have a husband who finished school for RN two years ago, and is currently trying to register in Canada to nurse here. He currently works in my parents' business. I have no other children besides my sons.
Anyways, I came here for some advice after dealing with a very hard year, and an abusive, emotionally abusive mother. My mother has kids, six grandchildren. We have had a volatile relationship since I was around fifteen. I've always been closer to my father, who I have a close bond with, but it seems to be fading, when my mother interferes.
My parents financially helped my husband, by providing him a job, and I receive my maternity benefits. We are stuck in a house with my mom's name on it, and we are currently in the process of building a newer house with more room, but my parents names are on it. We do not have the best credit histories.
Anyways, my husband is amazing dad. We both have been taking care of our twin sons 24/7 since they were born. I had a C-Section. All through my pregnancy and fertility treatments, C-section, and now raising my children, I have expected my mother to come and help me with my twins. She helped every morning for the first two weeks of August, and has since laxed to coming over one day a week, and visits for an hour. She usually brings somoene with her, whether it's my father, her best friend, etc.
Basically, my parents support us financially with providing my husband with a job, but this has all come to head over the last few months. Yesterday and today, I am so hurt, ashamed, and fustrated with her actions, I just don't know what to do anymore.
Since I have come home from the hospital, it has been an ongoing battle between her, my husband, and I about the raising of our children. She disagrees with everything we do, and continously tells me how to run my life. When I was first had my babies, she wanted to let me know she didn't want anymore children after my second brother Steve and I was an accident. Then, she said she was calling FACS on us. We are great parents. My sons are thriving and