Need advice on bridezilla friend

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Registered: 11-28-2010
Need advice on bridezilla friend
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Tue, 06-21-2011 - 3:12pm

One of who I thought was one of my pretty good friends just got married.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 4:38pm

I probably would tell her.

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Registered: 05-28-2011
Wed, 06-22-2011 - 6:18pm

Tell her how you feel and offer to resart the friendship.

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Registered: 10-08-2004
Thu, 06-23-2011 - 12:56pm
Share your feelings with and let her know how upset she made you. People can't change unless they know how much they upset someone. That being said I don't know if I would go back to her after telling her, that's a choice you will have to make. If anything getting all of this off your chest to her will make you feel better.

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Registered: 07-26-2011
Wed, 07-27-2011 - 1:32am

It's nice that you sent a gift, it's the good friend thing to do. Hum, well I can see how being shunned by someone you thought you were close to is hurtful. If you feel so hurt that you don't want to be friends anymore cut her out. Do what she did to you, be too busy and have no time or cancel on her.

But maybe you should sit down and say "honestly I'm kinda hurt you didn't have time for me. i know you were busy with plans but i really missed seeing you." i don't think you should take it too personally, weddings stress people out differently depending on how much of a perfectionist someone is. i'm sure she'll thank you for the gift, if she sees you are coming from a good place and missed her friendship she should be flattered and say sorry. i wouldn't mention not being invited to the wedding, deciding who to invite is hard enough and i'm sure plenty of people were offended for not being invited.

It's odd because normally the bridezillas I've met scream about things not being perfect and yell at the bridesmaids for not doing more or enough and demand people to do things for them. My cousin was a bridezilla telling me I had to dye my hair a lighter colour for her wedding.... lol my natural hair colour is black! I wasn't going to go lighter for her wedding day!

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Wed, 07-27-2011 - 2:21am

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 07-27-2011 - 12:22pm

uh, you stated you are married, then you stsated you aren't but aren't jealous. Which is it??

Regardless, I agree, trust your gut - you weren't that close of friends.