Need to get advice on a matter with Mom
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|Mon, 04-28-2003 - 11:28pm|
Let's say my Mom and I have a conversation on the phone about whatever. She will go back and tell my sister and whomever else about what we talked about. I don't mind that much, except for the fact that there are some things that I have specifically said I don't want repeated to ANYONE, but it always winds up coming back to me. Of course, I KNOW that she's the one who said it, because I didn't tell anyone else who would tell who she would tell (like other family members). What is VERY annoying is that if I say something about my sister and I tell her NOT to say anything to my sister, I find out that she did anyway. Usually comes out when sister and I have an argument or conversation about something, my sister will bring up something that I said and I didn't say it to her. I said it to my mother who in turn told my sister. I really HATE it when my mother does it and yes, I have mentioned it to her OVER and OVER again.
The thing that really gets me is that if my sister tells her something about me, she will NOT tell me. I know this because my sister told me something that she told my mother and my mother never said a word to me, claiming "she didn't want to get involved." But she will tell my sister whatever I say. A little one-sided, ya think?????
I guess I'm really annoyed by this because there isn't much I can do about it. However, I would like to be able to talk or mention certain things to my mother, but I realize that I can't because my mother cannot keep anything I tell her to herself. I know we have all broken confidences at times, but my mother does it repeatedly. The worst part is that I find out about it. If my mother was smart, she'd tell someone and tell them never to say anything to me -- then I'd never know. But I guess Mom isn't THAT clever! LOL ;)
Any thoughts on how to deal with this other than not being able to tell her things? I know this is a hard one and I have been struggling with this for YEARS now. When I do find out that Mom broke a confidence and I say something to her, I usually hear "Oh, I slipped. It won't happen again." Which is about the biggest load of crap I've ever heard!