need help on how to help sis

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2003
need help on how to help sis
Mon, 06-23-2003 - 7:00pm
Hi all

I am in the process of changing my life and have come to this site to help with that! I must say it's fab :-) There are too many things that need changing in my life and am starting one by one. My sis is lovely she does so many things for me but am unable to help her with anything. for example i've just turned 31 and wanted to loss some weight so she is paying for a personnel trainner and she helps me with my job applications/interviews but am unable to help when it comes to her applications and interviews you see she is going for a pupuliage (Brasters Training for one year) and all the neverous set in and she can't cope with them and when there is a rejaction she feels so low and starts to think shes no good at anything and has no hope of getting her choice of place. I just don't know what to say to her apart from am sorry it didn't work out for you and something will soon turn up but she just feels so down or some times with out knowing I would say somthing that it will make things even worse. I feel it's best not say any thing and when i take that approche it even worse. please help..



iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2003
Mon, 06-23-2003 - 8:36pm

Try to think about what does make her happy, and then take that route. If asking will not help, observe her, when does she smile, when does she laugh, then act on those things. (Example, I know my mom loves to walk around the house in these mumu type dresses and water her plants, so I bought her a crabtree and evelyn nightgown, and she loved it!) It doesn't have to be monetary though, if she loves taking walks by herself, offer to do some chores for her so she can get away by herself. It sounds like you guys have a good relationship except for the fact that you don't know how she wants you to reciprocrate her kindness.