need some advice

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Registered: 10-17-2005
need some advice
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Sat, 09-10-2011 - 6:44pm

My niece / sister

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Sat, 09-10-2011 - 7:11pm
My simple suggestion is to call your sister, tell her that your Mom needs help walking. Then tell her that your Mom has asked you to come to lunch to help her and find out if she would rather assist your Mom herself.

I would forget the past, it doesn't help the present.

Dee
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 09-10-2011 - 7:59pm
Your mother is putting you in an awkward position, being that you weren't actually invited. If I invited someone out and a third party showed up, I'd be a little put off as well. I don't understand why your sister/niece don't get that your mom needs help getting around. Does she ask for help? I know my mother is very prideful and stubborn. She doesn't complain about anything, ever, nor will she ask for, or accept help when she needs it. Then, she fusses at me for being the same way. Anyway, getting back to my point, I say, don't go, and tell your mother to ask for help.
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Sat, 09-10-2011 - 8:51pm
It's between your mom and your sister. You're not invited, and shouldn't be involved..

I don't know why... but it is what it is. And your mother can go alone or stay home. She shouldn't be going behind one daughter's back and getting another one involved, all the while refusing to be honest with the other.

You have a mother problem, and I'd nip that in the bud right now.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sat, 09-10-2011 - 10:22pm

I think that you should tell your mom that you're not going because you were not invited. Tell her that your niece wants to honor her grandmother on Grandparent's Day and you're not the girl's grandparent. Since your sister will be there she can help Mom to walk, but Mom may need to remind her.