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|Fri, 09-05-2003 - 11:08am|
Some nights have been worse than others, and only one other night have I wanted to beat her to a bloody pulp. That night she pretty much sat on top of DH. I insisted that DH do something about it then, but he didn't (he doesn't like confrontation), and at the next social event (the one previous to this one) she behaved herself. DH and I have been together only five years and we are still VERY territorial with each other. We have come very close to simply avoiding all social contact with her, but we balk at letting her limit us socially.
Last Saturday, I had worked 9 hours plus a 1 hour one way commute after which we went straight to the wine tasting. Fortunatly, there were other guys there who she flirted with, so I handled it pretty well for most of the evening. But, then she was trying to show off cleavage that she didn't have, and I commented. After that, she really turned it onto DH. Finally, I had enough, I told DH that I wasn't happy, and that we would be leaving immediatly. I gave her one of my DIE looks as she cheerily wished us a good evening, and then went off on DH on the way home. He handled it very well, much better than he has in the past, so we talked a lot that night and over the weekend. We came up with a signal that I could use to let him know that things needed to cool down and/or we needed to leave. I also told him that either he took care of it before the next tasting or I would during the tasting.
Tuesday, he passed by her office and she called him in and asked him if his "lovely wife" (she never refers to me by name) was upset with her. DH told her that I thought that she had been too friendly with him at the wine tasting. He told me that she acted like she was a person who had a tendency to put her foot in her mouth, that she couldn't stop herself, and she knew that she had done it again. I don't think we will be having problems in the future. I have noticed with her that she has two ways of dealing with men. Either on a sexual level, or she treats them like a child. She is 37, never been married and I am not surprised.
The problem is that I am not satisfied. It turned out much better than I thought it would, but maybe I still want my pound of flesh. I am still upset with DH that he didn't just shut her down at the beginning, and he lied to her when she asked if she had done something different that night, if there had been a problem in the past. He pretty much told her that it was an isolated incident. I know I should just let it go, but there is a part of me that is really just hurt over the whole thing because rather than deal with any uncomfortableness with her, he let me be incredibly uncomfortable, hurt and upset several times.
Am I being too sensitive, should I just let it go with DH? I know she will say something to me in the future about this, she is stupid that way, how should I respond to her? The next event is about two weeks away. I am honest and up front to a fault, and I am afraid of what I might say.