New to Dealing with Person with OCD

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2003
New to Dealing with Person with OCD
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Tue, 12-28-2010 - 2:54pm

After my husband died at 47 and a terrible, terrible experience with greedy inlaws, I

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 3:27pm
I don't have much time to respond now.. but wanted to tell you we have a poster here who is married to someone with OCD, and she'll probably be very helpful.

And I was wondering.... did you post last year or so, about this lady cutting down the tree?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2007
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 3:33pm

My Mom is OCD.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2007
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 3:58pm

Forgot to mention my Mom is a control freak.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2004
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 4:42pm

I wish I had some answers for you. It doesn't sound like this lady can be reasoned with.You say you two "need" each other, so dumping her as a friend doesn't sound like an option. I'm sure changing the subject wouldn't be an easy thing to accomplish either.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 5:58pm

If she is aware of her OCD you maybe able to work out a system with her.

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Registered: 02-03-2008
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 9:42pm

You know what bothers me most

"IMAGINE" All The people, Living Life in Peace...................., "You may say I'm a dreamer; But, I'm not he only one." "Be A Dreamer and Imagine."
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Registered: 01-03-2004
Wed, 12-29-2010 - 11:49am
Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Wed, 12-29-2010 - 3:09pm

Hi,

First, congratulations on making decisions that helped you move on after the death of your husband. My sympathies for your loss. It sounds like you are being smart with your money and your time.

That said, you need to set healthy boundaries with your neighbor.

1)It's Ok to remember her birthday or give her a gift on holidays. Just be careful you don't allow her to become codependent on you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Wed, 12-29-2010 - 4:37pm

Wisdomtooth--you do, indeed seem wise!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2005
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 5:49pm

My H of 30+ years is OCPD and I wish there was an easy answer.

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