No longer close with sister. Don't know what to do?

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Registered: 08-26-2007
No longer close with sister. Don't know what to do?
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Sun, 05-01-2011 - 1:53pm

I've never posted

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Registered: 07-29-2002

I just wanted to add, being that her DH is now passed, that is a reality she has to face in a more aggressive form than anyone else.

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Registered: 08-26-2007
Thanks. I did write her letter a while back and told her I was going to "back off". The sad thing is I really don't even think she notices there is a problem. She is just so caught up with all that she is going through. I am just going to give her space and live my own life. Thanks to both you and your dog:) (i have a few of my own) for the help!
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Registered: 08-26-2007

Thanks izzy and sultan

I think you both hit on something that I believe might be true. I think she may have already met someone. She often refers to her male friend "J"

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Registered: 01-06-2006

lol...sorry about the way that posted..didn;t realize my dog hit the keys and added his two cents...

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Registered: 01-06-2006

I've never been through that before but no I don't see you as being selfish. Your sister may require more attention and care

-0ikkkkkjnhright now but to hear you tell it she is just being down right rude and inconsiderate. Maybe the best thing to do would be to tell her that you realize that she seems to be going through a lot and that apparently getting together with you doesn't fit into her schedule right now. Let her know that you will leave her be and that when she is ready to reconnect then you will be there for her once again. It will be difficult for you but in the end it may just be the best thing for both of you. She may be hurting but there is no excuse for being that rude and blatanly ignoring you or brushing you off constantly. Give her space and maybe she will eventually get what she is missing out on. Good luck!

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Registered: 02-04-2010

Hi K -

Quick question ? Do you have kids of your own? this is not to judge you but merely to understand how much time you have in your life.

Also, how much of a connection did you and your sister have when your late BIL was still alive?

You need to ask yourself some serious questions before you assume to have an

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Registered: 07-29-2002

Big Hugs to you.

My MIL passed away a few years ago, after

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