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|Fri, 07-30-2010 - 1:47pm|
My mom just left our home after house sitting for a week. Long story short, she shows no affection toward me. She will never initiate a hug and barely says goodbye. You try to talk with her but the conversation always centers on her and her problems. I was making my daughter some cheese sticks and heated up the marinara sauce in the microwave and it splattered all over. I quickly wiped it up while it was still wet so that it wouldn't dry and be even more difficult to remove. She criticized me for cleaning the microwave! She felt that since we just drove 5 hours I should sit down. This from a woman who leaves coffee spills and bread crumbs on her kitchen counter for days. When we were kids she would make our sandwiches and lay them on the bare table without so much as a napkin or paper plate.
She smokes and that is like the most evil thing according to my husband. He accused her of smoking in our sun room. She didn't - but she did leave the windows open there and smoke outside. Consequently the smoke and odor wafted in and got into the carpet and furniture. He took his anger out on me and my daughter - biting our heads off for no reason. When my daughter came in the house crying, I hugged her and my mom criticized me for that! Then she criticized me for all my husband's knick-knacks in the living room (I did not buy them - his family did, a whole other story). She has "borrowed" money from me over the years and never paid it back. When I was pregnant with my daughter and wouldn't loan her money she kept calling me up at home and work calling me nasty things. Then when I had an emergency c-section and complications and almost DIED she didn't even come to see me. She had no car at that time because it was repossessed due to her bad judgment, but she could have gotten a ride from my sister or even husband. She has said when I was a kid she wished she never had kids, she thought I was ugly on the inside, etc. She doesn't like anything or anybody. She criticizes everything. My husband and I don't get along and I want to leave him. My in-laws treat me like a stranger because their son can do no wrong. My brother and his family came to our house while we were away and cooked a big dinner for my mom. They never come here when we're here!! I really have no friends and no support system - I feel totally alone in the world. My father is so gullible - he buys anything a telemarketer calls to sell. My in-laws have no friends either. You cannot even carry on a conversation at their house because of their 4 dogs barking all the time. They are well off but for Christmas buy me dollar store items. They ignore my birthday but get gifts for my husband and daughter. I really just want to run away. I have health problems that make it difficult for me to do anything that requires energy. I really don't know what to do...