Not family, neighbors..

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Not family, neighbors..
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Wed, 07-02-2003 - 8:39pm
The lady in the apartment below me does nothing but complain all the time about everything I do. She constanly yells at me for wetting her portch when I water the flowers (which I cant help because the rain gutter empties there) she gets mad if I have a load of laundry in the wash at the same time she needs it and if I am not there the minute it is done washing, she will take out my wet clothes and keep them sitting on top of the dryer for around 3 hours until she is done. Just today the landlord called and said I have to remove the planter I hung off of the edge of my balcony because she called and said she is afraid it is going to fall on her kids. HER KIDS ARE ARE IN THEIR TEENS!!! Plus, I hardly ever see them outside, and i have NEVER seen any of them on the patio! I am so tired of it and I have tried being nice to her, saying hi, and what not, but now I just want to get back at her for being so rude all the time. I dont know what to do. I am tempted to go throw rotten eggs on her patio and see how she likes that. Any suggestions from others with similar apartment experiences?

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Wed, 07-02-2003 - 9:24pm
Whoa, horsey, stop right there. As long as there are apartments, and renters, they're not going to go away. Is there some way YOU CAN COMPROMISE with them? If not, you're just renting, when your contract's up, just move and hopefully the next one will be MUCH FRIENDLIER and kinder. Sometimes, landlords (or longtimers) gang up together to get rid of the ones who whines the most. I have a neighbor, who comes to me and whines about his renters. I've heard renters complain about their landlords. I USE to run an apartment as manager assistant, when I was 13yrs. old, so I've heard both sides of the story.
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Thu, 07-03-2003 - 12:42am
I have never had my own apt so I'm not really qualified to give advice on this, but as I see it, well, the laundry thing...I have to admit it does sound a little bit "ok" for the rude lady to go ahead and move your laundry if it's in her way. I've never gone to a laundromat or anything but I know it really burns me when at home my younger sister leaves her laundry in the dryer and I need to dry my clothes, so I will throw it in a basket and leave it. I think it might be even worse if it was a virtual stranger, you know? But as for ALL Of that other stuff, the rude neighbor lady sounds like one of those ppl who always finds something to complain about no matter what. I don't think you will be able to change her. Some ppl are just like that, and it is unfortunate for the rest of us. I don't necessarily think you should move though because you have just as much right as she does to live in that bldg, you are both paying rent, period. I would ignore her as much as possible. As far as her being rude there's no rule against it I'm assuming, as long as she doesn't harm your property or something. Just try to avoid her maybe? Good luck tho! Rhiannon
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Thu, 07-03-2003 - 9:14am
Oh god it sounds like you have a younger clone of the nasty old lady (65) we live next door too. First the wall between our bathroom and her apartment is thin. She screams through the wall when DH takes a shower. She screamed at us through the wall when we were laughing in the kitchen. Our kitchen and bathroom are next to each other. She locked DH up in the attic when he went up to get something then called the police and said there was an intruder WTF!. Luckily DH had his key with him and managed to get out. She smells bad and like something died in her apartment. At christmas one year we were at MIL and FILs (they live below her) and she gave them a plant saying "Merry Christmas Smith Famiy* BE QUIET!" Its not like we are loud she just has sensitive ears. She can tell you when the florescent light in MILs kitchen goes on and off because she can hear it buzzing. True she even wrote down the times and made them change the light to an incandescent. DUH all florescent tubes buzz and no one else could hear it including the landlord who was called in on the problem.

As i was crossing the street i passed her and she said "Du bist Blöd" which translated means "You are stupid" and i responded "And you have a nice day too".

She is like that to all the neighbors. The woman on the ground floor was learning saxophone and you could hear it in the hall. Well she was just starting so it wasnt very musical just one note at a time. The old lady yelled "Knock that off, THAT ISNT MUSIC". I say if you cant live with others in a multifamily house move and get your own place.

Trust me i sympathise with you!

*not real name :)


Edited 7/3/2003 9:16:55 AM ET by tikalme420awaken

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Thu, 07-03-2003 - 10:01am
I think you hit the nail on the head saying, if you can't live in a multifamily dwelling then you're the one who needs to move (talking about your rude neighbor and the original poster's rude neighbor too!) In the original post I was thinking the same thing sort of, it sounds like the downstairs rude lady can't handle sharing her home w/ others...which is pretty much a necessity when you live in an apt! Maybe she is used to having lived in her own house instead of an apt and is still adjusting to all of the differences...who knows! But she still doesn't have a right to be a whining freak especially over petty things like water draining through to her patio ;-)

Rhiannon

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Thu, 07-03-2003 - 11:26am
I took a shower this afternoon after working out. She cranked up her music. I guess the shower running was too loud for her. Im ready to move out of the multi-family dwelling myself lol!
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Thu, 07-03-2003 - 12:40pm
The German phrase that lady said to you, "du bist blod," it made me laugh because I understood what was going on. It reminds me of my grandmother who is German and still lives in Germany. She is in her 80's and was kicked out of her apartment for walking around late at night. That's how Germans are. I know the Swiss are even worse, the police are called when someone flushes the toilet past 10pm.
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Thu, 07-03-2003 - 1:51pm
Sorry about your neighbors. I understand 100%. We live in an apartment. Our neighbors are less than civilized. They only fight between the hours of 1 am to 4 am. But sadly we have just had to learn to ignore them. Due to their jobs they sleep during the day, so as childish as it is I get even on occassion.

This may sound like an obvious suggest but have several of you gone to the property manager. My best friend lives in an apartment also. There was a REALLY MEAN old lady that lived above her. She has been complaining about this lady's dog. One night while we were on the balcony having coffee she let her dog out. He sniffed around on the porch for a minute. Then a tiny trickle of something came from above and into my coffee. You can only imagine what it was! The next time we were over she saved her dog on the balcony. By the way these are balconies made of boards! She just let the hair fall everywhere. My friend has tried to get even. Finally she got enough neighbors together to talk to the manager. Everyone threatened to leave because of the awful things she lets "Fluffy" get away with. When it became many against one...the manager took notice and talked to the lady. If she can't play by the rules, she has to go play somewhere else.

Good luck!

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Registered: 06-17-2003
Thu, 07-03-2003 - 5:02pm
Yes,

My grandmother wasn't playing by the rules, which was why she was asked to leave. I am a renter, and I would like to share my story. When I moved into my apartment, we finished everything by midnight. By 11:00pm everyone helping had left, and my roommate and I were doing things like finding the shower curtain, towels, and bedding, things like that. Sometime after midnight we got a knock on the door, and it was a policeman hiding off to the side with two other officers behind him, in a sort of defensive stance. Apparently someone had called in and said there was a domestic disturbance going on. The police even had back-up on the way. Just to let you know domestic disturbance means violent behaviour going on. My roommate and I were shocked, we hadn't even been talking loudly let alone fighting! The same thing happened three more times, the police would show up and find nothing. One day my roommate and I were home all day, but left for ten minutes to go to a store, upon our arrival a list of "rules" showed up at our door:

1. No T.V. past ten

2. No laundry past ten

3. No walking around apartment past ten

I gave the manger "the list" and I never heard any more complaints again. The manager knew this lady, and knew that we weren't being loud. My roommate and I are professionals, we don't have parties, or lots of people over. This lady still lives near us, and she won't even look me in the eyes even when I say hi to her. I have never had a fight with her before or after the original incident, and she has never asked us to be quiet, she just calls the police!

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Fri, 07-04-2003 - 2:58am
Thank you for your story, and all of the other replies. I have come to the conclusion, that treating your neighbors as you would like to be treated is the best way to solve this. SHE is not going to change and there are going to be plenty more people in my life that will be the same way. If I learn how to deal with it now, next time, it will be easier! I wish the best to the rest of you who have and do feel like me!

Kristi

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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 6:19pm
I think that with this woman, your only course of action is to speak with your landlord and let him or her know what is going on. The landlord will either support you by talking to the woman or not, but I don't think that talking to this woman yourself will do any good.

We had some issues with the laundry facilities at our apartment. We solved it by just taking the clothes to the laundry mat once a week and not using the facilities at our complex.

As for the watering, I think this is just something that comes with living in a downstairs apartment and the woman should just deal with, but you can't really make her deal with it. The landlord can tell her to quit her complaining though.

If you can't get any resolution through the landlord, then it looks like you will either have to ignore this woman or move.