Old Baggage Coming UP

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Registered: 07-10-2002
Old Baggage Coming UP
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Wed, 07-20-2011 - 2:53am

Every once in a while this old baggage regarding my separation from my very dysfunctional family comes up to haunt me.

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Registered: 03-28-2010
Tue, 07-26-2011 - 4:01pm

I have to agree with imotherofothers!!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Sun, 07-24-2011 - 8:25pm

My son-IL and his birth sister were adopted by the same family when he was about 3 years old.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 07-23-2011 - 5:33pm
I think you feel guilty because family is irreplaceable. As close as your closest friend or partner may be to you, they have not known you since your very first breath...They don't have the same DNA or blood coursing through their veins. In my opinion, there obviously has to be a change in your family members for a relationship to work. I think the best hope for change is through lots of hard work and therapy. I have seen this type of situation first hand, and it is very painful for all involved. I hope you can either find a way to be okay with the situation, or encourage your family to seek out some professional help.
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Registered: 01-22-2004
Sat, 07-23-2011 - 5:09pm

Hi, I understand you, I have been undergoing a similar process with my family.

The thing I do, is that I never talk about the topic with my friends, only with my therapies.

I have learned

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Registered: 07-10-2002
Thu, 07-21-2011 - 12:55am

Thanks for your reply.

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 5:12pm

Are you sure it is guilt and not a longing for something you need and want that they can't give you?