Oldest DD drama continues in my house.....

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Oldest DD drama continues in my house.....
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Fri, 07-08-2011 - 4:43am

Hello , it's been awhile since i've vented on here lol But my oldest dd 1 drama continues to escalate ! Awhile back I posted on here about dd 1 and her boyfriend moving in with me,and I basically threw boyfreind out. Well since then things were ok between dd 1 and me. Up until couple of days ago I started to feel as though I'm losing the parental control over my younger dd 2,because of the negative influence my oldest dd 1 is starting to show twords me . for example ,totally disrespecting me and argueing with me about how I am disaplining dd 2,yelling my face , saying to me I am nagging them all the time!!! Well every mother now and then has to keep on kids to clean up after themselves,pick up clothes off floor ... well i shouldn't have to do that with dd 1 , she is 22 yrs old,now because of the disrespect ,hatred dd1 is showing me,dd 2 is starting her crap with me ,dd 2 has totally change ,and is so disrespectful with her yelling at me ,giving me all these dirty looks like i crawed out from under a rock or something!! they both have been screaming in my face so bad to the point where I felt totally helpless ,and i felt as though they were laughing their butts off when I left their room!! It took alot to control myself because I wanted to grab dd 2 and beat the sh** out of her ! then the other one ,I am trying to make a long story short

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Sat, 07-09-2011 - 3:17pm

Thanks hopefully the change will work,ya know all this drama happend lastweek and up till today,i still feel like a worn out rag,,beleive me it has taken it's tool on me !!!

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Sat, 07-09-2011 - 12:01pm

Good for you.

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Sat, 07-09-2011 - 11:52am

I sat dd's down and told them both that the disrespect and drama is going to stop and if it doesnt stop dd1 is going to her fathers to live and that will be the end! I told them that I cantacted their father told him

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Fri, 07-08-2011 - 9:10pm

I think that your dd22 needs to be out of your house. She's causing way too much stress and trouble. Because you feel guilty about kicking her out you could sit her down and warn her that next time she starts yelling at you etc will be time to go...then its her choice to be respectful and stay in your comfy home, or get herself kicked out. (she won't admit that she had anything to do with it, it will be all about you being mean, but you'll know better). Whether she lives with her dad or someplace else is her problem. After she leaves the younger one will probably continue to be difficult for a while but you'll probably get the old her back. For your kids to see you following through on something like kicking out dd will be a powerful lesson that they need to take you seriously.

The older one will respect you eventually, after she's grown up some. When she's completely responsible for herself she'll start to recognize what you did for her for years.

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Registered: 05-12-2011
Fri, 07-08-2011 - 5:59pm

I always remember growing up when i was

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Registered: 06-12-2011
Fri, 07-08-2011 - 5:52pm

1st never allow your kids to disrespect you in your house. You'de be suprised how the ex and his g/f will change their tune when you send both of your daughter packing to live with them. Because your are acting so paranoid and afraid to have them live with your ex they are using that against you. Also the g/f is out of line none of

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Fri, 07-08-2011 - 5:36pm

Yes,you are deffinitly right,dd2 has to much time on her hands. she is not really into sports,but maybe babysitting or dogwalking would b good for her,something.dd1 def needs to learn major respect,dd1 has issues she resents me i think deep down,maybe has a prob with my ex and i divorce or something,idk.she is not a bad kid but has to get confidence in herself,i have tried to do that with her.when she is ready to step up to the plate and finish what she started (xray lic)then she will feel better about herself i can only do so much to help her. but she is not going to continue disrespecting me and my husband. if it was up to my husband dd1 would of gotten walking papers a long time ago,but he tries to keep his cool for me,but it is all coming to a head .

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Fri, 07-08-2011 - 2:43pm

First,

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Fri, 07-08-2011 - 10:20am
Big hugs,

I would send ddi1 to her dads as well. Given that she is so chummy with them it may mean it will be more enjoyable for all involved.
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