parents at wit's end with boyfriends
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|Fri, 01-21-2011 - 5:33pm|
I wrote about my situation on another messageboard-- to sum it up, I'm on the verge of breaking it off with a boyfriend of several years because he hasn't proposed. I recently found out that my sister, to my surprise, is having a similar issue. She has been with her boyfriend for about two years, the guy has been amazing to her, goes with her to my parents' house all the time, has more or less become a part of the family.... but apparently, based on some comment he made during a family party a few weeks ago that my aunt overheard, he's apparently not that into marriage and thinks it's just a piece of paper. This got back to my parents of course, who are both livid-- particularly my father, who I think feels sort of duped into allowing this guy into his home all these years only to learn he's not interested in marriage. My parents are pretty traditional in the sense that they believe if I guy doesn't propose within a year or two, he's not going to and is just using the girl. Both my sister and I are in our thirties and although we're adults I think our parents still see us as their "problems" until we're married. If this were the 1800s I think my father and male relatives would have ran these two guys out of town with baseball bats for dishonoring the family. I think our parents are starting to feel really bad about the idea that no one including the two guys who have been dating their daughters for years, wants to marry us (despite the fact that we are not bad looking at all, both successful homeowners without issues, both have good jobs, etc).