People who brag ..

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People who brag ..
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 12:46am

A friend rang the other day. All I heard was how brilliant the kids were. When I mentioned my kids achievements, the friend changed the subject back to her kids brilliance. I hadn't spoken to this friend for years, so we didn't really have a lot to say to each other anyway, the whole conversation was awkward. When I mentioned something about one of my kids doing something that he was chosen out of many kids for, "friend" stated that it must have been because of my DH brains.

I found it insulting. At this stage, I said nice talking to you, see you another time.

Im not entirely why this person rang me in the first place.

Does anyone out there have " friends" that brag all the time?

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Registered: 12-16-2008
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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 2:37pm

Sultan -

I'm guessing UKgirl does not have children.  If so, she would understand the very complicated nature of parenthood and dealing with parents who brag about their children.

Everyone probably has a friend like this.  When someone wants to brag continually - whether it's about their children or stuff they've done or things they've bought - it is more about that person's insecurities than anything.  They have to announce to the world all the wonderful things they (or their children) have accomplished or bought or achieved because it somehow makes them feel better.

In your friend's case, it's not clear whether she does this all the time, though it is interesting that when you tried to change the subject, it always reverted back to her children. 

She might have called you - after all this time - because all her other usual friends have grown weary of her bragging, and you were "new" blood.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 4:36pm
I always remind myself that bragging is a manifestation of being insecure and needing to impress others to feel good. I have learned to find the weakness in people like this In order to be able to function in their presence. Try not to be so sensitive...consider the source!!

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Registered: 03-30-2009
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 10:24pm

Sultanofswing, I agree with irishtea.  Everyone else is most likely sick of her so she went down the list and decided to call you.  Whoopie.  However, one doesn’t need to be a parent to know that your “friend” is quite a bore and downright rude. 

Sure, there are always people who will overanalyze and decipher and try to point to finger back at YOU, but ignore them. 

Frankly, I would not worry about the call, and if she never calls again it would be too soon.  If she does reach you, cut her short and tell her to have a nice life.

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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 11:49pm
I have children and I agree with ukgirl's reply.
When you haven't spoken to someone in a while the most important topic that comes to most mothers' minds is their children, which both the OP and her friend did. Some people may take it a bit further than others but usually comes from a good place and considering they speak once every couple of years I wouldn't take offense or even a second thought.
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Registered: 01-22-2004
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 1:05am
I don`t find any insult in what she said about your DH brains. And agree with the poster that said that before. About her braging, well give her the chance to show off a little, we all are human. She might not be perfect, but you aren´t as well.
Sometimes it is sad to see how people gets upset for things that are over dimentioned. Guess we all should live in an island.
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Registered: 12-16-2008
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 7:58am

"(after all, the OP seems to have taken a compliment the wrong way so she might have also taken some normal comments about her kids as bragging)"


UKgirl - that is your perception...that the OP seems to have taken a compliment the wrong way. 

Perhaps it was a compliment, and perhaps not.

Even you say:

"I try to remember we are only hearing one side of the story here!"

Since we don't hear in what context it is given, and we don't know the history of these two women, it could go either way.

While you read the OP as "kept trying to change the subject to her own children," I interpreted it that when she tried to mention her children, the other woman would not let up.   


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Sat, 09-29-2012 - 1:05am

"...the mere mention that my child must have inherited his fathers brains was a little rude, as she implied that my sons brains could not have come from me."

Well at least she knows you're smart enough to pick an intelligent guy to be your husband :smileyhappy:


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