Please help me!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-10-2011
Please help me!
Sun, 04-10-2011 - 6:22pm

I have a sister whose boyfriend broken up with her almost three years old. But she is still not over yet with that relationship. She blamed me giving bad advices and runied her relationship. That was the reason why her boyfriend broken up with her. The advice I gave her based on information I got from her.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 04-14-2011 - 6:45pm

You can't and you shouldn't.

Your sister is trying to put her issues on you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Wed, 04-13-2011 - 7:40am

I'm sorry that your sister is upset with you over choices her boyfriend made.


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002
Sun, 04-10-2011 - 7:15pm

Im venturing a guess that advice or not, your lovely sister would have found herself lacking a boyfriend.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sun, 04-10-2011 - 6:45pm

First, she chose to take your advice to break up with the boyfriend. So its not fair to put all the blame on you. Then, when she realized she made a mistake she could have tried to get the bf back. Or the bf could have tried to get her one has to wonder if that relationship was meant to be.

If she is still not over the relationship after 3 years then she might have problems bigger than anything that you can fix. You can help her by encouraging her to get out with other people, date some new guys, develop some interests, in other words "get a life". If she does all that and is still obsessed with the relationship then maybe she should seek professional counseling to learn why she can't let it go.