PO'ed at father
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|Fri, 08-22-2003 - 8:57am|
Case in point, my husband and I, and my parents decide to go out to a place local to my parents for dinner. When we get there the place is packed, so we decide to take something to go, my father, who can barely stand for more than a few minutes is leaning on the counter where we need to order, and my mother is standing behind him. The counter person asks us what we want, and my father can't even handle putting in an order but is standing in the way so he gets upset and yells at my mother to get up to the counter (how can she, he's in the way)?! By this time, he's ranting even more and I tell my husband to just take him outside. We finally get out of there, but not without my being completely embarrassed by his behaviour.
This is just a small example of how he acts where ever he goes, if something is a TAD out of place, he blows up...then he sulks. I don't think I've ever seen a child act like this, let alone a grown man. This last time, my parents came over to my house (they live in NY, I live in CT) on their way back from seeing my brother in Boston. I had a nice lunch all prepared for them...what does my father do...complains that I have Lite mayo instead of the full fat mayo, asks if I have butter (I don't use butter), and then asks for salt and pepper. Basically he wanted to make a sandwich that had meat, cheese, full-fat mayo, butter, and salt and pepper on it. Well, I am not willing to accommodate him like that and my mother told him to use mustard (and a lot of salt and pepper). During lunch, all he could do was complain...
After lunch he went to the bathroom, I thought I smelled cigarette smoke when he got back, but I wasn't certain and didn't possibly think that he would have smoked in my home (both my husband and I are non-smokers). Well, as they were about to leave, I distinctly smelled smoke, and I told my mother and she basically just blew it off (my father wasn't with us at the moment). My husband and I had to completely air the entire top level of our home out, I had to re-wash the rugs/towels in the bathroom he used, and I was absolutely livid with the whole thing. Yes, I should have told him he couldn't smoke in my home, but since he shouldn't smoke, he tries to hide it (as IF you could hide that horrible smell)! I was pissed off for days (and no, I didn't say anything to my father...though now I wish I did).
Thankfully my parents don't visit very often, and after this episode I will certainly invite them less. I just don't know what the hell is wrong with my father, and how to deal with the anger I have at him. Any advice? Thanks.