Political Disposition?

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Registered: 04-03-2003
Political Disposition?
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Sat, 07-26-2003 - 10:31pm
My boyfriend's uncle is running for mayor and I have chose not to vote for him because on the few times i've met him, he didn't exactly strike me as a nice enough kind of guy to be running our community. He showed aspects of prejudicy and racism through comments and criticisms, thus i decided this isn't the guy i would like to give my vote to. While my boyfriend and i were discussing the candidacy, i mentioned that i was voting for the other guy. (now that i think of it, i have no idea why i told him) but he, in turn, found it neccesary to tell his parents while we were eating dinner at thier house. Blah blah blah...uncomfortable situation. I thought i was out of the electric chair, but again it comes up at dinner with his parents and sister. Normally, i adore her. Until now, that is. Get this-the whole mayoral race topic comes up again...this time with his sister saying, "I don't know ANYONE whose voting for " All eyes turn to me. Silence. "well, i know one person, then, but he's such a scoundrel...Why are you voting for him?" before i could answer, or even think of one at the drop of a hat like that, Boyfriend kicks in "Because she doesn't like Uncle so and so" Great. Good answer buddy. "Why don't you like him?" So i explain. "That's your boyfriend's uncle and you're not voting for him? I think thats so rude." And there it was. Before i could even take control of the situation, i had already wasted too much time just taking in what just happened, thus losing my opportunity.

Am i obliged to vote for someone because he's family? I mean, is that the RIGHT thing to do? Becuase maybe im wrong, i don't know. I am infuriated. Im mad that i opened my big mouth in the first place, but madder than hell that my boyfriend opened his. And maddest that his sister opened hers and said what she did. She's supposed to be some liberal boycotter hippie chick and here she is trying to take away my entitled opinion and freedom to vote for who i want. Goodness! Am i wrong?
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Registered: 06-02-2003
Sat, 07-26-2003 - 10:36pm
The whole thing about living in this country is NOT having to vote for someone u don't agree with! ARGH. If I were u I would say, "I don't agree with his politics, it's nothing personal" and refuse to discuss it further. The end.

I don't really like the idea of calling someone a liberal boycotter hippie chick, tho, that strikes me as kind of prejudiced...I know u probably didn't mean it like that :-)

Rhiannon

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Registered: 04-03-2003
Sat, 07-26-2003 - 10:44pm
thanks for your advice, I also wish i handled it differently but found it so shocking that i couldn't even see straight. And even if that remark was prejudiced sounding, it wasn't meant that way, just a description of the hypocrisy she was showing me by protesting my opinion when she's supposedly ALL FOR freedom of speech and rights activisms. And besides, I'm not running for mayor!
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 07-27-2003 - 3:58pm
It is your right to vote for anyone that you want to. It is also your right not to tell anyone how you are going to vote. But you opened your mouth and now it is public knowledge. The only person that you have to be mad at is yourself. And, yes, many people vote for someone because they are family or they know the person.

You may not have cared for the uncle when you met him but my guess is that you have never met the other guy. Do you know the what each one stands for and how they will use there power? I would not bring up the subject again but if the family says something else about it then you should take it upon yourself to talk about the issues. Ask what the uncle feels about the issues at hand. And if you are planning on voting for the other guy, you should know what he stands for and be able to compare their value system.

That said, I just want to say that most people who vote for family or friends do so because they are not informed about the issues.

I hope that this situation doesn't cause you problem with his family in the future.

Melissa

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Registered: 04-03-2003
Sun, 07-27-2003 - 6:20pm
Thanks again for the advice. I know most of whats going on, i like to think. I have met the other guy a few times actually. He attended my Uncle's funeral (although i admit, this guy IS a funeral-hopper for publicity, but i digress) and have talked to him freely about issues. He always came across as a very nice renowned man, polite. He comes across as a decent-mannered man whereas the boyfriends uncle practices political suicide at every chance he gets, or so i think. Thanks for the advice and i SO agree with the blame being pointed at me for even bringing it up in the first place. -bunny