A Poll, please

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
A Poll, please
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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 6:31pm

OK, a relative is quite troubled.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 7:36pm

What are the circumstances of his manslaughter case? A car wreck, or a shotgun killing in a fit of rage?

The answer to that would highly influence my decision.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 9:12pm

Apparently, after he stole the car, he broke into several homes then the victim's home and stole guns.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 10:36pm
Then I'd have to say NO! Parole may not be denied next time....

P.S.: I've never heard of a father being tested for drugs after a birth. Odd.

 

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 10:40pm
This might sound horrible, but I would steer clear of him and the situation. You have no idea what this person is like, or more importantly what he's capable of, or planning when/if he gets out. If he is ever paroled and show evidence that he has changed an is continuing to try to change his life, then, and only then, I might give him a chance. I would still be cautious at that point.

Again, some may think I'm horrible, but if he writes, I would just pretend I never got the letter. Best to avoid drama/confrontation...
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 11:31pm

Cat......the baby and the mother were tested when the baby was born, and they both tested positive...or however that works with babies.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 11:42pm
No, you didn't misspeak! My bad!

 

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Sat, 09-24-2011 - 12:35am

I would steer clear of him and his mother.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2010
Sat, 09-24-2011 - 12:40am

No, it doesn't sound horrible.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 09-26-2011 - 1:48pm
Well, if he's 35 and was sentenced to 50 years, it's likely you would never have to actually spend time with him in the real world. I guess for me, it would all depend on whether or not he has shown any remorse for his crimes. Perhaps then, I might consider writing him. On the other hand, it works both ways. I realize he was dealt a bad hand in life, but so are many others, and they don't turn out to be murderers. Why didn't he reach out to any of you prior to this conviction?
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 09-26-2011 - 4:44pm
I'm not sure that he was dealt a bad hand in life. As a newborn, I'm sure he was adopted out quickly. It's not like he lived with his drug addict mother for even a single night of his life.

He's already been up for parole a few times, so the next hearing (probably next year) might be the lucky one for him. 50 years doesn't really mean 50 years. (I worked in maximum security prisons in Texas)

Anyway, just thought I'd throw that out there.

 

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