Problems with dad
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|Fri, 09-19-2003 - 10:54am|
A little background... my dad has always been, well, for lack of a better word, a jerk. He's the type who believes his word is law and anytime anyone dares to offer an opinion that differs from his, he shuts them out and refuses to listen. He's also an alcoholic although, after an arrest, he's been sober for the past month.
Also, here's a little background on my romantic situation. At the end of May of this year, my relationship with my fiance of three years (who I'd been living with) ended. He broke up with me but honestly, I had been emotionally absent from the relationship for a rather long time. I no longer loved him but was afraid to take the big step of ending the relationship and being forced out on my own. So, we broke up, I moved back closer to my family and just before the move, met a wonderful man, C. C and I started dating around the beginning of June and have gotten closer and more serious since. At present, we're rather serious about each other, we've both declared our love for each other and have started introducing each other to our families. C and I are so well suited for each other. Honestly, I never would have believed that there was someone in the world like C if I hadn't met him in person. He's kind, funny, charming, sexy, intelligent, witty, loyal, he owns his own house, has a good job... he's just incredible. I feel so good when I'm with him and he treats me like a princess. When we first started dating and we talked about what we want in a relationship, we both agreed that we wanted someone who wanted to be involved in our lives and our families, which was something that my fiance never wanted (my nephew, whom I adore, was 9 months old when my fiance and I broke up and he'd never even attempted to meet him). So, all this sounds great, right?
Well, C is divorced and has a 10 year old daughter (who I've met and get along with) and because of this, my dad has decided that C is not allowed at my dad's house and that he doesn't want C anywhere near him. My dad claims that I 'can do better' and that I don't need a man with so much 'baggage'. I've tried talking to my dad but he won't listen, just keeps saying that there are hundreds of other guys out there who aren't divorced and who dont' have a kid and that I should be dating one of them. To make matters worse, my nephew's first birthday is tomorrow and the party is being held at my parents' house and C wants to go but I don't dare bring him around my dad. C doesn't know about my dad's problems with him and I don't know what to tell him.
Anyone have any idea how to handle this?