QOTW...What is the one of the first ....

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QOTW...What is the one of the first ....
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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 10:20am
things you do when your family has a conflict? Do you talk about it right away, walk away, blow up, or go on with feelings that this is the last straw?

For me when we have a family conflict I usually spout off and speak my mind without thinking(which causes more troubles) then I go away and sit and stew on the conflict for awhile. I have found that even though people think we have "resolved" our issues they are still there in the back of my mind for awhile. I don't think I have ever forgotten what all has hapened and sometimes I wish I could just let it go, but as you all may know that is hard to do...let go.

So what is the first thing that you do when a "comflict" arises in your family?

I hope you all are well and your week moving along. Until later~~~~Michelle

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 3:18pm
I like to talk about the issue right away and try to get it resolved before it becomes bigger than it really is. I have found that most family issues stem from misunderstandings or something else that is relatively small but gets blown out of porportion in people's minds. If we talk about it right away, then a lot of conflict can be avoided.

We had a conflict at Christmastime with my BIL and his wife. It was over some family pictures. The whole thing was a misunderstanding which could have been explained in 30 seconds. It became a huge issue though because my SIL blew up about it immediately before anyone could explain anything and basically accused my husband and I of stealing from them. Then she left the room. We haven't been able to talk about the issue since.

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 8:56pm
When conflict arises the first thing I do is get really quiet. My mom is this way too. Usually this is a good thing cuz I can calm down that way. But watch out when someone ELSE starts yelling at me, I turn vicious, LOL. I have a temper but ONLY when provoked. If ppl are just disagreeing with me I'm calm and even if someone criticizes me I am usually calm unless they cuss or yell. Then I am a real redheaded madwoman! Rhiannon