racists in the family
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|Thu, 07-24-2003 - 11:23am|
I was raised in the south, still live here and love it most of the time. There is still a lot of racism here. (I think it's everywhere, but people in the south tend to be more vocal about it instead of trying to hide it.)
Unlike many of the women in my family who are my age or older, I have a career that I love. I meet all kinds of people and have developed a respect for people of all colors, shapes and cultures (ok I still have a problem with a few cultures but that's my hang-up and I'm working on it.) I'm writing because a few of my relatives and in-laws are still very racist and I don't always know how to respond to their remarks. I have politely disagreed and made my case as effectively as possible but you can't reason with an unreasonable attitude. So now several relatives and in-laws deliberately try to bait me and upset me by making outrageous statements in front of me -- criticizing interracial couples and that sort of thing. (None of these people are on the level of the KKK, and most of them would go out of their way to help anyone who needed it, black or white. They're just very closed-minded.)
Don't get me wrong, I love most of these people. I just wish they could open their hearts, and if they can't, I wish they would shut the hell up and quit trying to bait me. If I say anything, the discussion escalates, and if I don't, I feel I've condoned their attitude.
Anyone better than me at handling this sort of thing? I'd especially like to hear if this sort of thing goes on in black families as well, or other ethnic groups. Advice please!