Is This Really a Friend?

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Registered: 12-11-2010
Is This Really a Friend?
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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 1:33am

I've had this friend who I've known since high school in 2004 him and I talk on and off since. This past Halloween tho he had told me that he he and I were going to go trick or treating yes we're in our 20s big deal. In the end I ended up going trick or treating alone. While he ends up saying "Oh I was with my friends and I was in your area but I didn't get home til like 1AM".

So basically he's the type of friend that says "Oh we'll hang out and then when the day comes he says he can't and then goes and still hangs out with someone else doing what we were suppose to do". That really hurts my feelings when he does this and I've always had friends like this.

The only good friends I've managed to have are far away out of state. Haha

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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 8:50am

I personally cannot stand a flaky person.

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 10:00am

He might still be a friend, just not dependable in that particular circumstance.

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Registered: 12-11-2010
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 2:36pm

Yeah this guy and another girl friend of mine always does this to me they say we'll hang out and then never do and go hang with other friends instead.

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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 2:57pm

"Yeah this guy and another girl friend of mine always does this to me they say we'll hang out and then never do and go hang with other friends instead."

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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 3:10pm

Yeah I had a good time that night and everyone loved my costume. :)

But again thse 2 friends I do have suck I really hate how my friend always tells me "oh I was in the area" if it was me I would have stopped by even if it was for 5 minutes to say a quick Hi and Bye. But nope he always says "I was in the area at a friends house" and never stops by. Same thing with my other girl friend I mentioned before, she always calls or texts me and says lets hang out! We set it up and then she forgets and never calls or texts me to tell me. So it sucks.

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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 3:19pm

Speaking of my so-called friends. I use to have a best friend since middle school then after we graduated high school we still hung out and chatted on and off. But the problem was that she'd only call me to ask me a question or only hang out because her mom worked about a mile from my house and she could easily walk over there or pick her mom up from work.

I ended up telling her off a few times and this past summer July I think it was I told her off one night because I was tired of hearing about her problems. I would always have to sit and listen to her issues and problems and then I would help her out but she wouldn't listen or keep repeating herself again and again not listening.

So that night I told her off I ended up calling her a whore and a b**ch etc. Why? Well listen to this, she was seeing a guy who she had been with I say for a 3-6 months and when I was with her one day at the mall walking around this guy who she thought was cute walked by and she exchanged numbers with this new guy even tho she had a Boyfriend!

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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 3:40pm

I think most sexually promiscuous girls just want to feel validated or loved. It sounds as if this friend of yours has moved on. You tried to reach out and didn't get a favorable reaction. If it were me, I think I'd let sleeping dogs lie. You were the last to make an effort, so the ball is in her court. If she wants to try and repair the friendship, I think you'll hear from her.

As for your story, it's funny, the person who I described in my initial response to you, was the same way. She was younger than I, and single. She put meeting men above all else, even friendships. Anytime we had plans, if something else were to come up that could even potentially involve her being around guys, she'd ditch me. That's no way to treat a person. Most times, I'd hear from her days later. She'd go into some story about how (after ditching me) she'd met a guy, hooked up with him, and never heard from him again. I always liked to think that was karma in motion ;)

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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 3:48pm

Could you be his backup?

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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 4:44pm

In regards to my former friend when I did contact her and say sorry I did make a mistake of calling her a whore again and she didn't like that and got mad at me yet again and thats when she told me off and ended our friendship. So as I said before she made it clear she didn't want me anymore.

As for my other friends they are the way they are and no matter what I say or do they won't change.

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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 4:45pm

Haha yeah exactly

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