Relatives Who Will Never Relate Part 2

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Relatives Who Will Never Relate Part 2
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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 7:59pm

I can't believe that my siblings and I

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Tue, 07-06-2010 - 8:36am

The last I lived around my family (parents, aunts, uncles) I was 16.

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Tue, 07-06-2010 - 10:07am

The "me" today is TOTALLY different from the "me" at 16 years old.

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Tue, 07-06-2010 - 10:26am

Yeah, you're preaching to the choir.

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Tue, 07-06-2010 - 12:23pm

There's no easy solution....outside of being a total SOB.


Yup! You're right about that. When I was still in school, the rest of my siblings were settled in their careers and married with children. They were also homeowners in the burbs. They didn't want to hear about my city life, my classes or my experiences on the retail selling floor. They would just look at me, if I tried to add to the conversation, shrug and carry on as if I'd said nothing. It was even worse when the entire family was together or when relatives were around. My mum (who's deceased now) would try to coerce me into "reaching out" to everyone, but at the time, I was just so sick of spending an entire weekend with no adult interraction (my mum would be wrapped up in spending time with the others). I began to decline invites. Like the OP, I also spent time with the kids, but now they're teenagers and are doing their own thing.


Things seem to be better now, but I still feel left out, because my life is so different from theirs and they don't take my life and career seriously. I'm single with no kids and they just can't relate to me.

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Tue, 07-06-2010 - 1:05pm

As long as your life matters to you....surround yourself with like minded people.

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Tue, 07-06-2010 - 4:54pm

'Like that term Framily...will have to steal that one for my own use ;)


Thanks for each of your replies.