Restraining Order, Public Information?

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Restraining Order, Public Information?
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Mon, 02-14-2011 - 4:06pm

I have some minor family members who have recently learned that their mother is re-marrying.

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Mon, 02-14-2011 - 4:34pm

CFK,

Every state is different in regard to public access of records like restraining orders.You should be able to find out if an RO is public record by simply calling the Clerk of the Court in the county in which the RO was filed.

It depends on what the RO is for - domestic violence, abuse, sexual abuse, etc. You can find out easily enough if this guy is a registered sex offender. Just Google his name under sex offender registers in the state he lives.

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Mon, 02-14-2011 - 6:16pm
I have tried and he is not listed. The source who found the RO information said he's not listed as a sex offender but that doesn't mean that the minors would be safe around him. I would think that someone would have good reason to prevent a father from seeing his only daughter. Drugs? Physical or mental abuse? Mental instability? The problem with calling the courts is, I don't know which county it is, only the state. My source did this as a favor, and while it was legal, they did not give me any specifics.
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Mon, 02-14-2011 - 11:36pm

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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 3:24pm
This theory has crossed my mind as well. The only problem with that being, if that is the case, why not just get all of that out in the open so that the ex-side of the family doesn't have to worry? I guess the secrecy is what scares me. Oh well, the truth will all come out sooner or later. I guess for now, I'll just have to take some solace in the fact that he is not a registered sex offender.
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Registered: 02-14-2004
Wed, 02-16-2011 - 4:29pm

In our area, a RO is pretty much a given if one just asks for one.

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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 12:14pm
cfk_3 wrote:
This theory has crossed my mind as well. The only problem with that being, if that is the case, why not just get all of that out in the open so that the ex-side of the family doesn't have to worry? I guess the secrecy is what scares me. Oh well, the truth will all come out sooner or later. I guess for now, I'll just have to take some solace in the fact that he is not a registered sex offender.

I agree with you. They should be upfront about his RO and what that entails. But I don't think the secrecy necessarily means he's guilty. People sometimes don't handle these things the best way. They could be living under the "don't ask, don't tell" policy. I hope you find out the truth, so you can rest easy.

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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 8:31pm

Does the father of the kids (who will become stepchildren of Mr. RO) know about it? It seems like he should be told if he doesn't already know. He has the right to know what's going on, and if its something that could affect his kids then he can determine how to proceed.

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Fri, 02-18-2011 - 4:52pm

Minor as in, under eighteen.

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Fri, 02-18-2011 - 4:55pm
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Fri, 02-18-2011 - 5:26pm

He suspects something is not kosher there, but doesn't know about the RO.

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