Is this rude?

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Is this rude?
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 5:43pm

When neighborhood children are playing and going from your house to their house and they want to eat I think


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Registered: 07-29-2002
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 6:05pm
No you are not. We have the same situation at our house. I have gotten to the point that i no longer provide snacks unless i planned in advance. If kids are hungry they can go raid their own parents pantry for food.

I also warn them that once the snacks are gone,that is it until my next grocery run.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 6:40pm

I don't think you're wrong. I think you're sweet to feed them as much as you do. Have you considered ( I know this is CHEAP ) going to an Aldi or Dollar Store and stocking up on junk food instead of buying name brands? I'll admit, that's what I've started doing with my nieces. I can get 8 fun sized candy bars ( that's what you really want to feed to hyper kids, right? ) for a dollar. That's two per niece, and if I sprung for a whole other do the math.

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Fri, 08-05-2011 - 6:48pm

yes, I agree you are (usually) being very feed all the kids!!

I was a single mom for 7 years (before I got engaged) and from the time my dd was 4 to 11 (she is now 12) and I simply could not 'afford' to feed other kids, but if my dd had one friend over, I would.

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 6:54pm

I don't have this problem (yet) but I know my sister in law talked once about switching to only healthy snacks for the kids.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 7:09pm

LOL, that is normally what I have available.

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 8:24pm're nice! Can I send my kids over to snack at your house too?! LOL!!

I don't usually mind if the kids' friend's snack here. BUT that's only be/c I don't have 6 kids in & out of my refrigerator all day long!!! Ai-yi-yi!!! That's out of must be at the grocery store every other day? That would make me insane....I barely like going their weekly!!!

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 9:47pm
My daughter had the same problem, though her kids are older and their friends have bigger appetites at 11, 14 and 16. One girl ended up eating two whole bags of oranges daughter had just purchased! Then, there's my 16-year-old grandson who brings home his guy friends with two hollow legs and could eat a whole cow in one sitting! As for drinking, she laughed that she's going to have to go back to tap water because of how thirsty they seem!

She says she's sort of between a rock and a hard place because at least this way, her kids and their friends come HOME and bring their friends along, so she wants to keep the goodies flowing for that reason. One solution she came up with was buying a big popcorn machine and getting pre-packaged popcorn and oil by the case from a restaurant supply so it's pretty cheap. She has also started putting out a tray of food so they know that's all they're being offered instead of letting them raid the fridge and cabinets and decide for themselves how much they're allowed to take. It doesn't stop the snacking, but both ideas have helped her keep the amounts eaten down and helps her budget.
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Registered: 01-13-1999
Sat, 08-06-2011 - 1:32pm

We went through this when my kids were younger and we lived in a neighborhood with lots of kids.

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Sat, 08-06-2011 - 5:20pm
I think this is a personal choice. We had a neigbourhood of kids & I had 3 of my own growing up 7 years apart. I could afford it and so I fed them cause I liked knowing where my kids where. I believe this worked well when they moved into their teens. Very expensive to feed teen boys but hey, it's important to know what they are up to.

I won't supply water bottles, I used plastic glasses - that would be my approach & I would do as others suggested & buy bulk or from the dollar store. Kids don't care, they just want to fill up to burn all their energy.

Good luck! Dee
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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sat, 08-06-2011 - 6:02pm

You're not being stingy. I'll bet that your dh doesn't comprehend just how much those 4 other kids eat over the course of a week.

When I was growing up the moms would just send the neighbor kids home at mealtimes, or anytime that they wanted family time etc. They would say it nicely, but firmly. Occasionally they would invite one kid to stay for lunch (when kids were playing one on one)