Sabotaging, controlling, psycho mother!
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|Tue, 10-12-2010 - 12:42pm|
I need some help. Quick background-I am 29yo female, married, and have a psycho controlling mother. She doesnt work, doesnt have friends, doesnt have a life. She sits home alll day and comes up with crazy theories. She drives over to my bro's house when he is at work and goes through his personal and financial stuff, etc. I cant get into everything here, but she just plays mind games and guilt trips with people.
When I was a kid, she would invite people whom I did not want to befriend (either as a friend or boyfriend) over for lunch, she would tell them my work schedule, where I would be etc. I would constantly tell her not to do this, that I did not like the person and did not want contact with them. She would ignore my request and continue to go behind my back and call them or email them.
Now that I am an adult, I joined facebook ONLY to talk to 2 college friends who live out of the country. My mom joins and proceeds to befriend my friends, contacting them and telling them stuff I dont want them to know. Then she would write private stuff on my wall (knowing that everyone could see it!). And she would send me nonstop friend suggestions-again people I do not want to befriend.
This all ticked me off so I deactivated my account and made up a fake account to get away from her.
Now I dont want my family interacting with my husband's family. I like the two sides separate because I know how nutty my mother is and I want to avoid any drama. (She has a tendancy to cause drama amongst family members). So what does my mother do? She obtains my sister in laws email address and proceeds to email her daily. Mind you my sister in law has screwed me over many times and now my mother is her friend? I asked my mom not to email her but she doesnt care, hello, where are her loyalties? She doesnt care about my feelings.
What can I do to alleviate the situation? If I say something (like