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Same every year ..
| Mon, 01-16-2012 - 2:06am |
Hi,
One of my good friends has a birthday dinner every year. She invites us all to the best restaurant and we all pay for our dinner and hers. I just looked up the restaurant. Its about $40 a main course on average. Most people would eat 3 courses and have wine. I don't want to seem petty but I don't eat 3 courses and drink much and feel that I don't want to go out and have
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(admittedly I have not read entire thread so please forgive if this was already answered)
Has she ever acknowleged your birthday in the fashion she wants to be acknowledged?
San
Hi,
Im opening this post up again as the friend who had the party thought is was absolutely fine for all of us to pay and so the party went ahead and its now well and truly forgotten. Anyway, she mentioned to me the other day that someone who didn't come to the party SHOULD have still bought her
Well the birthday dinner has come and gone and Im so over it.
THe meal was ridiculous :( .. A choice of
I agree.
I would go and get a lower priced dinner. Skip the wine, have water, skip the salad, bread and dessert. Nothing wrong with that and you don't have to wrack it up to make it cost $200 in the end. And when you order tell the waiter yours is on your own tab.
A card is the only thing I'd give her. No gifts or pitching in for her dinner is required. For real.
I only once threw myself a b.d. dinner at a restaurant. I was going to pay for everyone's meal, but my father threw down half the money for me, and I paid the other half of the entire party.
Single moms are no more greedy, tacky and clueless than the general population. It's just this person who has a problem. I've not met anyone that does such things.
And please let us know how it goes.
To all of you who have commented so far, thank you for your time responding to me and for your very good opinions. I agree with you all that she is tacky and has huge expectations that we will all just go along and pay up.
She is a single mom, ( you could have prob guessed that) and I think she feels that its one way she can get others to do for her. I suppose during the year she is spending her money on gifts for others and most likely feels that this is the only time she can choose the restaurant and have a meal to remember on other people money.
I think she most likely thinks that her friends have partners and life is easier when your a twosome, so its her chance to get something in return. Without justifying it, this time I will go to the dinner.
I resent it, but I suppose Im lucky enough to be able to afford it. For me it means she gets a token gift rather than a decent one. She just doesnt get it that its unreasonable to expect this, but I know others who do the same thing, so maybe its the single gals that think this is fine.
I will let you know how it goes, its this Sat night.
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