Sharing parents with rest of siblings during holidays...

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Sharing parents with rest of siblings during holidays...
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Wed, 12-22-2010 - 12:05pm

How do the rest of you folks arrange family holiday dinners/get-togethers?

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Registered: 11-24-2004

If geography isn't a factor, then why not

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Registered: 07-26-2007

I didn't think of New Year's day...what a great idea that is! I want to spend as many holidays as I can with the entire family so I would probably invite other family members. I just feel that's the thing to do with family--include as many as you can, which is why I don't understand why my other siblings would not do the same...

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Registered: 11-24-2004

I guess I'm a tit for tat kinda girl. If someone doesn't treat me the way I want to be treated, then I do the same to them. I used to bend over backwards for some people, but not anymore. Yes, New Year's day can be a special holiday too. Leave your tree up until after NYD. Exchange gifts and do whatever it is you usually do on Christmas.

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I think having your xmas celebration on a different day is the way to go. That's how it worked in my family. One set of grandparents was divorced and each had remarried. My grandfather and his 2nd wife called dibs on xmas eve every year, and all their kids and grandkids were there. My grandmother and her 2nd husband chose a day, different every year, that was close to xmas and when everyone could make it. That worked well for her since she was a nurse and worked the night shift and her schedule wasn't regular. She just respected that xmas eve wasn't an option for her. Xmas day was always for each household celebrating on their own and maybe inviting grandparents over or a relative that was on their own.

And I totally agree with Ginger. You're starting a new tradition so it's the perfect excuse to invite only those you want to have there and set the tradition the way you want. I suggest you start your own traditions with your husband for xmas day if you are alone. My husband and I almost always spend xmas day just the 2 of us. We've developed our own traditions. We only give each other stocking stuffers. We concentrate on things to make the day fun: candy, little games or puzzles, small toys. For a few years we used to go out xmas eve and each pick out a few videos to buy each other and then have a xmas eve/day marathon watching them.

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