Is she out of line - or am i overreacting?

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Is she out of line - or am i overreacting?
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Mon, 08-08-2011 - 7:08am

I met this woman maybe 2 months ago briefly at a dinner with mutual friends. we went to coffee together once after that but then after i lose my job we started meeting several times a week .

she has lived in this city for about 1 year and doesnt have many friends. she's quite lonely and has told me this several times - but also feels

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Mon, 08-08-2011 - 8:03am

There are definitely some red flags in regards to her behavior.

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Mon, 08-08-2011 - 9:55am

Yes, she's out of line, and very unpleasant.

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Mon, 08-08-2011 - 11:28am

Wow, she sounds, exactly like, a crazy neighbor, I have (who, I stay AWAY from!!!)

1st, like my neighbor, she's very insecure about herself, that's why she feels the need to talk about herself so adoringly, and 'fishes' for compliments. 2nd, this is the reason why she is so lonely, because people don't put up with her 'odd' behavior and would rather not hang around her.

I, definitely, would not hang out with here anymore!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Mon, 08-08-2011 - 12:31pm
If she said you could pay her back when you got a job, and she bought you coffee, whether you offered her $ or not, I'd give her the $12 or so that she spent on you, and be done with her.

P.S. Just because one might be slim, doesn't automatically make them desirable unless, it's just for sex.
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Mon, 08-08-2011 - 5:45pm

You know, she sounds a bit manic to me.

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Registered: 12-22-2009
Mon, 08-08-2011 - 7:58pm

thanks everyone.

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Tue, 08-09-2011 - 11:08am
Curly, I am in no way suggesting that someone who is a size zero automatically has an eating disorder. However, she could be weight obsessed meaning, the remark honestly was about herself and not you. I wouldn't take it personally :)