She read my mail!

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Registered: 04-07-2003
She read my mail!
Wed, 10-08-2003 - 6:08pm
My mom a word, unbelievable. Despite the fact that I've spent twenty years of my life with her, she continues to astonish and amaze me.

Last week, she left a message on my cell to say she found something strange in the mail and wanted to know what she should do with it. Well, five minutes later, another message had her saying it was addressed to a Miss (My Last Name), and she mistakenly opened it thinking it was for her. Here's the thing: she got remarried four years ago. I never took my stepfather's last name, so we have different last names. The letter was a confirmation for a transfer of funds to my boyfriend's car insurance company. He got behind in his bills and asked for my help in paying his car insurance. He paid me back Friday. No big deal, right? Wrong! My parents already dislike my b/f, so when they heard I'd loaned him the money they lectured me for an hour. Get this: when she finally did give the letter to me (I had to ask where it was) the letter not only had MY last name, but it also had my FIRST name.

What really kills me is that if my mom had simply left the letter unopened and asked me what it was for, I would have told her. Instead of acting and treating me like a mature adult, she decides to be sneaky, invade my privacy, then lie about her reasoning.


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Registered: 05-20-2003
Wed, 10-08-2003 - 9:32pm
That is really terrible!! I don't know what to say. She obviously knew it was for you and deliberately snooped in your private mail. I would tell her that seeing you can't trust her, you are going to have your mail directed to your work address or something.

My kids would have killed me if I had done this!!

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 10-09-2003 - 2:52pm
That was so WRONG! If it happens again, I would go to the post office and get my own P.O.Box! I absolutely hate people putting their nose in my financial business - I dont care if it is my parents! Oh, that pissed ME off! (LOL) Tell her next time she feels like going thru your mail that youre going to stick hers in the shredder, even if its a check from Ed McMann!
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 10-10-2003 - 10:56pm
I get permission to open DH's mail. If I didn't like it (mostly the junk mails, the rest I leave alone) I just toss them out and he doesn't even have to see it again. Only because they just pile up and pile up, and I get to see it again un-opened or just littering up the table. This way, they get in and they get tossed ASAP.

When my youngest went to school in Puerto Rico, he also gave me permission to open his mail so I can let him know who's / what's it about if it was worth forwarding to him or not. There was a letter from a girl in my city, though, and I forward it to him un-opened (suspicious) but he still haven't gotten it and he's back home now.

If you didn't want your mom to open your mails, open a cheap Post Office Box and have it sent there. Or have your mails come to YOU. There's no charge to have your address change.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-13-2003 - 9:50am
This is one of my pet peeves. My mom never opened my mail, but she sure looked over my shoulder when I did, and asked nosey questions about the things that I opened privatly. It may be time to get a private PO. Doing so would send a nice message without you having to say a word.