Is she serious?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2004
Is she serious?
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Wed, 03-09-2011 - 6:40pm

I have an old friend from high school who thanks to facebook we reconnected and found

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Registered: 02-04-2010
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 10:10pm

Hi

Firstly Im sorry about your dad passing away and hope you have lots of strength at this difficult time.

YOur friend is behaving that way because she is bored and lonely and obsessed with her own problems. I can really relate to what she is going through, but they are not your problems and you needn't get involved with her issues at all. With regards to your IBS, I would be focusing on getting well so that your life becomes easier, health wise.

If you cant afford new stuff to wear to special occasions, look on Ebay or ask your friends to load something .. maybe not her, but some of your other friends... ( I always had a close friend who would happily lend me an outfit here or there)

Your friend seems very juvenile and uptight.. she loved her old life and wants to be part of it again, and she isnt accepting of other people. Her quality traits include being immature, being a major complainer, and being jealous of other people. If you continue a freindship with her, you have to go back there knowing

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 10:50pm

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2004
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 11:19pm

Sorry for your loss. She is not a friend. She has no sympathy for anyone. She acts like grass is greener on the other side (except when she wants to put you down or spread your business all over Facebook). I would "de-friend" her and don't even give her an explanation.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 10:23am

Thank you very much sultansofswing, paradigmshifter and gingersnapelle for your support...

My Father's sudden decline and death has left me in a grief and pain

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 10:44am

Do you think you can just continue to ignore her calls and friend requests (you can put her on ignore on Facebook)?

Otherwise, do you think you could sufficiently draw up your anger and let her have it when she calls?

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 11:21am
I like your style! ;)

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2004
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 11:41am

paradigmshifter, thanks alot for your advice and I am alot more comfortable with option #1....i ignored her friend request as soon as i got it so that she cant send me another one...just a few minutes ago she again called me and i ignored her call just like yesterday....she again

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 12:25pm

Thanks, both of you!

OP, I kind of got the feeling that she was a blowhard and would make a big stink, but be prepared to wind her down if she does so anyway.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2004
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 1:29pm

I think that she behaved so horribly to you that she doesn't deserve to know what it was that caused your friendship to end.

I agree. She doesn't deserve an explanation. I ghosted on a couple of people in my life with no further explanation. I like your idea of warning everyone on Facebook about the stalker.

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 1:42pm

HI,

"Unfriend" this woman in all ways possible immediately! She's obviously just looking for someone to vent her own frustrations and anger upon. I suspect everything she's accused you of doing (overspending, etc.) she's doing herself.

If her marriage sucks she needs to take that up with her husband or see a marriage counselor (or a divorce lawyer).

You don't owe this woman anything and certainly not an explanation for how you choose to spend your time or your money or what your medical issues are and what caused them.

So you have three choices: ignore her,

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