Should I drop out of friend's wedding?
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Should I drop out of friend's wedding?
| Sun, 04-03-2011 - 3:54pm |
I have been friends with this girl since elementary school but we've always had a rocky relationship. She asked me to be one of her bridesmaids but we just got into another fight.
I can't stand her right now and am seriously considering dropping out of her wedding. I feel like we should have stopped being friends years ago so we wouldn't have been in this situtation. I think she hates me too actually. I guess what I'm wondering is if it worse to stay a bridesmaid in a wedding for someone you hate, or to drop out and stop being friends with someone a few months before the wedding?
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Semantics aside, this relationship is way too hot and cold, on and off, up and down
When you're young, I guess you get a few chances to figure out when something is important and something is just drama for the sake of drama.
Hi, there..."hate" is a strong word and should be used sparingly. That said, if it's not someone you care for or a family obligation, there is no reason to be in the wedding, or attend, for that matter. Simple, right? I have declined such
Dear Friend - I am writing to let you know I am not going to be able to be a bridesmaid in your wedding. I am just not confortable with the recent issues we have been having. I am interested in working through the issues and would still like to attend your wedding as a guest if you'll have me.
I would tell her in person.
I think this is all good advice and I am really thinking about ending the friendship at this point. I am just worried about doing it in person or even over the phone since 1. she always backs out of hanging out anyway and 2. rarely answers the phone and if i did talk to her I'm afraid it would turn into a fight where she turns everything around on me like always and I end up being blamed for everything again. Yes, it is to the point where I am afraid to talk to her at all.
Is it that bad to just write an email saying I was hurt by what you said and we aren't meant to be friends? I feel bad about this but really I don't want to keep on with this and then end up in her wedding photos and feel obligated to stay friends forever.
Turns out she didn't even get mad, and now over 30 years later we're still friends.
You need to stop convincing yourself to feel obligated to people you don't even like and who apparently doesn't like you all that much either.
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